COPYRIGHT NOTICE
This blog is copyrighted.
I know that means you can't take my writing without my permission. If you do, something can happen.
Plus, that is just a real shitty thing to do -- take someone's thoughts -- so don't do it!
I am happy if you want to use my writing to help those involved in the foster care system, but please, leave a comment asking if it is ok and letting me know.
Peace.
Copyrighted 2009-2012
COPYRIGHT NOTICE
This blog is copyrighted.
I know that means you can't take my writing without my permission. If you do, something can happen.
Plus, that is just a real shitty thing to do -- take someone's thoughts -- so don't do it!
I am happy if you want to use my writing to help those involved in the foster care system, but please, leave a comment asking if it is ok and letting me know.
Peace.
Copyrighted 2009-2012
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MamatoMany | March 9, 2011 at 9:55 pm
I hate it when people ask me when my kids will ‘get over’ their past. How can I expect them to ‘get over’ the fact that they were born into a family that couldn’t care for them, that they were horribly abused and neglected, and that they will carry those scars with them forever.
I help my kiddos get through things. And even after 16 years of being their mama, all 3 of them still don’t totally trust me. I don’t think they ever will. It used to bother me, it doesn’t any more.
They let me in their lives to ‘mama’ them, that is enough.
I am so angry on your behalf. “get over” it. How dare they?
Stupid, stupid, stupid people.
I am so sorry!
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abbys_momma | March 9, 2011 at 9:58 pm
The phrase I really hate is ‘everything happens for a reason’…what a crock!
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Jen | March 9, 2011 at 10:11 pm
Sorry if we’ve been sucky. We’ll be around and ready to listen whenever you feel like coming back. Best of luck with the rest of the toenail fuzz. (:
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Sunday | March 9, 2011 at 10:26 pm
My nmother still hasn’t gotten over being a foster child at nearly 70 or me at 40. It is like the death of a parent one never ‘gets over’ that. For us our childhoods died the day we realized our parents weren’t ever going to protect us. For me I have gotten to a place where it the pain is usually bearable but the wrong question, “where did you grow up?” Or something brings it all rushing back. I don’t think it is something we can ever really “get over” it.
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The Sleeper | March 9, 2011 at 10:49 pm
I don’t think you can get over your experiences with your bioparents, nor your experiences in foster care. You learn to accept and live with “them” through healing. But you never “get over” trauma. Sorry LT.
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michelle v | March 9, 2011 at 11:57 pm
i like jen’s comment
and sunday’s. i don’t think anyone is right in asking you to “get over it” hopefully we can give constructive thinking of yous and hugs and suggestions for living life where you are.
take care
♥ michelle
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Crumble | March 10, 2011 at 1:08 am
LT,
I am so sorry that someone told you to “get over it”. Please know that you have a lot of regular readers that are grateful for every post you make. We have learned so much from you, and your insight and pain are so real.
I am thinking of you.
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wannabe | March 10, 2011 at 2:04 am
i’m sorry it happened. i will be awaiting your return…
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Erin | March 10, 2011 at 8:00 am
Grrrrrrrr….stupid people. I’m sorry they upset you so much. We’re here for you, though, whenever you’re ready. Hugs.
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butterflysblog | March 10, 2011 at 9:05 am
Did someone actually have the nerve to say this to you? I think the “fuck you” response was the only appropriate one. Yay LT!
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C | March 10, 2011 at 9:34 am
You dont tell a child who has been part of the genocides in Congo or Sudan to get over it.
You don’t tell a child that has been through hell (like LT) to get over it.
Obviously the person that made that comment is severly deranged or deeply confused.
LT is amazing and she has a profound right to speak how she feels.
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rene wallis | March 10, 2011 at 9:48 am
Humans are amazing; one cruel comment can cause so much pain. One day, when i was thinking that killnig myself would be easier than coping with life, somehow, this transcendent thought came to me.
in the bible, god says to jesus: You are my beloved in whom I am well-pleased.
And I experienced that god (or whatever force for good you may be able to believe in) loves me exactly as I am with all of my good parts and all of my not so-good parts.
I am beloved.
i am not saying my life totally changed, but somethign shifted and I have never viewed myself with quite the contempt that I had been feeling, the dispair and the hopelessness.
so i hope someday your heart can feel totally accepted, beloved. I don’t know exactly how it happened for me.
i love your graphics by the way. incredible. definately show that you ar a very smart person with a formidable sense of humour.
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Kari | March 10, 2011 at 10:01 am
You are right when you say that most people will never understand your life. That’s why your words are so important.
Keep writing, keep teaching. Your words and experiences matter more than you can ever know. You help me understand my children better. You help me want to do better as their mom.
I am sorry for everything you experienced as you were growing up. You deserved so much better. But thank you for using your pain and wisdom to be a voice for other children.
~Kari
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Sharon | March 10, 2011 at 12:03 pm
You should just kill yourself.
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Crumble | March 10, 2011 at 1:27 pm
Who in the hell would write something like this on someone else’s blog? Would you respond this way to someone in person?
I worry about people like you that make comments like this… It scares me that you are out there… And that one day you might have children…
Would you say that to your sister? Or your best friend? Have you even read what LT’s life has been like?
My bet is that you are a very hurting person, who “gets off” on feeling better than others – so you have to put people down so you don’t feel like such a loser. YOU ARE NOT WELCOME HERE.
I hope you seek the professional help you so desperately need. You suck.
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lemontree | March 10, 2011 at 2:10 pm
How on earth could you say such a thing? I don’t think you understand the seriousness of what you just wrote. Don’t upset LT.
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Ms. E Speaks | March 10, 2011 at 2:14 pm
How cruel!!! You should just delete your subscription and figure out what’s up with your OWN life that you would find the need to express either your own painful inability to have empathy or destructive sense of humor!!!
I don’t usually even respond to stuff like this but this tapped a nerve and I hope that you will take LT’s lead and get yourself some help!
Nuff said.
Now back to my reason for logging in LT.
I’ll find another place to write it.
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Sunday | March 10, 2011 at 6:49 pm
Hi, Ms. E!
I totally agree, there is no reason for anyone to make a comment like that. they must like to see people get riled up.
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Ms. E Speaks | March 10, 2011 at 7:04 pm
Hey Sunday!
She’s possibly in pain herself -”Hurt people, hurt people”– but that doesn’t justify her words; neither do her words justify others’ calling her a “POS”.
When are we ALL going to learn to heal and help heal?
It all aches my heart.
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unhappygrammy | March 10, 2011 at 6:01 pm
You are a total moron. LT is well liked. Everyone need’s to know the harm foster kid’s go through. We look forward to her blog. If you don’t like it, don’t read it. What are you, an idiot CPS worker?
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Eilan | March 11, 2011 at 4:51 am
Sharon,
Go fuck yourself.
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Rage of Those Interrupted | August 27, 2011 at 5:53 pm
Sharon,
At least she’s a better person than YOU. How could you ever tell that to someone?!
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butterflysblog | March 10, 2011 at 3:21 pm
I am sure “sharon” is actually a miserable disgusting piece of shit who has nothing better to do than troll blogs like this.
Sweet LT – Please remember there are a whole lot of us who love you and think you are the best. Look at all of us who jump to your defense when someone is a moron. It’s because we care about you.
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unhappygrammy | March 10, 2011 at 6:02 pm
Yes, I’m sure she is!
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Melissa | March 10, 2011 at 3:38 pm
LT, as Campbell B. said, “I know these kinds of comments hurt and they are hard to ignore. Just know that most of the people who read your blog appreciate it. I certainly appreciate it.”
Don’t let one rotten piece of fruit spoil the perfectly good fruit.
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Janera | March 10, 2011 at 6:31 pm
Wow, Sharon must be hurting badly to be so intent on hurting someone else. Very sad. Sharon, maybe you should start a blog so that you can see how much positive, supportive, caring people can mean to you and how much they can help you. When you do, I sincerely hope no one leaves such hurtful, shameful remarks in your comments section.
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Crumble | March 10, 2011 at 7:31 pm
I really like Janera’s responce. I really hope Sharon reads it.
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Sarah | March 10, 2011 at 6:40 pm
LT, Sharon is wrong. Wrong, wrong, wrong. Cruel and wrong, and probably hurting a lot herself. There are so, so many of us in the world who believe you’re worthy and valuable and think you are amazing.
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UnwantedMyself | May 14, 2011 at 11:34 am
Its like people think that is so easy to forgive and forget…ITS NOT. No matter how hard that you try you NEVER will all you can do is make sure that your own child has unconditional love and that you never give up on them. I can only speak for myself but I an adult havent ever given anyone full trust…its impossible! After being crushed by your parents the ones that are suppose to love and protect you from this cruel world, the only people you know and have….how could you expect a child to???
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current foster kid | March 20, 2012 at 7:46 pm
you know what im sick of? constantly lieing about my situation when people not involved ask.. fuck off. and not even just lieing .always thinking of lies to tell if i get asked about things like who i live with or who is that guy that dismissed you from school? (social worker= 20 somthing year old black guy im a white girl were clearly not related) i got dismissed from school to go to cort and i planned to tell my teacher i had a meeting. this was like a month ago and for the first time i realized that normal kids dont have “meetings” of anykind to go to to discuss every aspect of their life. they just live them. ive had court shit since i was like 10 so ive always had meeting to go to.
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abbys_momma | March 10, 2011 at 12:19 am
exactly!