child abuse should be prevented EVERY month
*rated R for raw and realism (please read with caution, i am even surprised)
Child Abuse Prevention Month.
How incredibly sad that we have to dedicate a month to reminding people to stop hurting children; a month to “raise awareness” to prevent the harm that occurs from abuse. Or maybe sadder is the true fact that we need more than one month of reminders. Every day of every month should be a reminder to not hurt children; to not beat children, to not rape or molest children, to not verbally attack children. STOP hurting them. Ask yourself: how can people intentionally harm a child…and why? Can this really happen?
It happens all the time…
Over 3 million reports of child abuse are made each year.
A report of child abuse is made every 10 seconds.
Almost 5 children die every single day as a result of child abuse.
WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE?
Let me tell you what child abuse feels like…
Have you ever been hit with a shoe or an electrical cord or a wooden board or a belt or a fist or an open hand ? It stings and then it hurts. And amazingly the more you get hit, you suddenly stop feeling each individual blow, because all you feel is one big pain radiating across the area of attack. Have you ever been kicked over and over, as you try desparately to cover your body or your head to lessen the blows? When these attacks stop, your body continues to feel it. For hours and days. Laying on your back hurts, sitting on your ass stings, your face is tender to the touch. It can even hurt to cry or laugh. Your little body may just lay there, trying to rest the feelings away. It doesn’ t go away when the abuser does. See? — STOP hurting kids.
Have you ever been raped or molested? It can be excruciatingly painful…no lubrication, a big dick, an angry person, a fast person, a violent person, a drugged-out high person…it can hurt like hell as your little body tears or rips. Vaginal tears can hurt for days and the pain can radiate and feel into the stomach area or other areas in little kids. I used to beg my mom that my stomach hurt, while lying on the floor crying. You can’t see “down there” so you don’t know what is wrong. You find blood spots in your underwear, but nobody cares, so maybe nothing is wrong. It might hurt to piss, as the urine burns the tears “down there,” so you try to hold it as long as you can. If you don’t go, it does not sting. And as the tears heal, they might itch and add to the uncomfortableness of the experience. Oh and chaffing can happen because your little skin is soft and small compared to a big man who does not use lube rubbing against you. Oh yeah, and spit doesn’t count as lube. Fucking causes friction and friction causes fresh chaffing. Chaffing burns and hurts sometimes when you put on underwear or touch it. It can also sting when you pee, so you hold it. But again, you can’t really see it because it is “down there” and nobody cares, so maybe nothing is wrong… See? — STOP hurting kids.
But it might not hurt at all…if you have been groomed by the abuser, or i f they act like it is a “relationship of love” so they might be gentle and slow because in their eyes they love you…they are not hurting you. They are trying to “fix you” or “make you better,” or “you are helping your dad because he needs the medicine.” But it still hurts your psyche and your insides feel gross and slimy and disgusting. And that feeling never gets out, because someone was in you, someone violated you and you had NO choice… because you were little. See? — STOP hurting kids.
The act is painful enough to endure, but a big body on a small one is also uncomfortable at minimum. The crushing feelings of a man on top of child’s body takes your breath away. At times you can barely breathe, if they finish and drop on top of you. Your hands pinned down, and your little wrists are sore because god forbid you escape while he is getting his rocks off. Or if he/they don’t hold your wrists down, he/they tie them up using something like a rope or a belt and as you struggle to try and get free, your little wrists get rope burn. Sweat on your little body, that feels slimy and gross and it sticks to you even after he is done. See? — STOP hurting kids?
Besides rape, abuse can occur when a child is forced to give a BJ? Think about large a man compared to the mouth of a child. Children don’t understand and when they are told to “suck the lollipop” or “let the worm go home” it makes very little sense… but what makes sense it the gagging and the feeling of suffocating and not being able to breathe while some big asshole is shoving your head against his lower region so that his dick is getting serviced. And being forced to swallow slimy, salty, stuff that you have no idea what it is, but you know it doesnt taste like a lollipop. Or if he pulls out of your mouth but shoots it all over your little face which is worse, because now you “see” what it is. And your insides die everytime because you have no control and you are nothing more than a slave there to service people who really don’t care about you. See? — STOP hurting kids.
Have you been yelled so loud for everything you do, that it pierces your ears? Called “a piece of shit,” “a waste of life,” “a mistake,” a pain in the ass,” “ugly and stupid,” ” a fucking waste,” “a whore,” “a slut,” “a bad terrible kid” etc. When you hear this over and over from one or many people, it gets stuck in your brain and all that you hear is what you have been told. Tapes playing the same messages everyday, even when you are old. See? — STOP hurting kids.
And when the abuse continues, you learn defense mechanisms so that you feel nothing. Some kids split there world, so that there is a “day daddy and a night daddy” and they forget about the “night” after it happens. Some kids dissociate, float into the ceiling, the wall, anywhere so “it” is not happening to them… And some, dissociate into “parts” so those “parts” suffer the pain and feelings and the child can continue to live. With defenses in place, you feel nothing, but you absorb all the shame and guilt and feelings of disgust into your soul. See? — STOP hurting kids.
And what are the results of hurting children? … the life of the person writing this blog. See, it affects the child and later the adult. The pain of abuse does not end when you get free of it. I and many others live with it everyday. I and many others believe the only way out is death. I and many others never see an end to the effects of years of abuse.
Please know that every hit, every slap, every punch, every rape, every touch, every burn, leaves a scar ~it may not be physical but it leaves emotions that never go away.
Before you act against a child, step back and think about the ramifications. STOP your behaviors. Just because you were abused does not mean you need to continue the cycle. That is NOT an excuse for your behavior. Stop, think, and remember what it felt like when you were little.
See? — STOP hurting kids!
If you are being abused and are reading this, please call:
….these people can help you.
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