when you can’t pee… it’s worth a shitload of money

January 18, 2012 at 2:05 am 71 comments

I almost dont know where to begin.  I have been in shock since friday.  Confused too.  And scared.  In fact, I kind of missed a couple days…almost completely.

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Last friday, i went to see my lawyer with Jessie (my friend KC’s mom).  You see, on April 18, 2011, I was riding my bike and was hit by a car.  I got hurt, with multiple injuries.  Besides cuts and scrapes, mainly:

1.  I had a vulvar hematoma and couldnt pee.  At the hospital after having an A/P CT scan, the doctors did a full exam of “down there,”  and then the doctors had to catheterize me.  This injury caused a shitload of pain and I was downing percocets daily (coming from someone with a high pain tolerance!)  The dam catheter was in until April 28th, but the doctor did not clear me until June 18th, after the hematoma subsided.

2. I broke my distal radius.  At first I was put in a long arm cast on April 22nd after the swelling got reduced.  My wrist was not healing and it was unstable. I forget the term to describe the break… but I had surgery on my wrist and a Wristjack was attached on May 18th.  The Wristjack sucked.  I got out of the hospital on May 20th.  The Wristjack was on my arm until July 29th.  I couldnt move most of my fingers or my wrist.  I had PT from August until November.  I have exercises I am supposed to do for a year, because my wrist will still heal the doctor said.  I am expected to have some pain with my wrist for up to 2 years when doing “heavy” activity and I may have aches and stiffness for the rest of my life.

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I stopped looking at the medical bills coming in, because I was freaking out.  My ER visit, level 4 was $1715 and that did not include medications, supplies, lab tests, scans, or doctors.  Honestly, I don’t know what it included.   My A/P CT scan with contrast was $4386…  wrist views $545 … room and board when I had wrist surgery was $1524 per day!…. the operating room  and anesthesia was billed for the first 30 minutes and then every 15 minutes!!!  Physician fees, medications, supplies, outpatient visits, PT….

See?  Insane.

So, in my state, the injuries I got are considered “severe” and my medical expenses are above some quota.  I didnt really understand everything that was being said, because I dont drive, I dont have insurance of any kind, and I never had money in my life.  But what it means is that because of the severity of my injuries and high medical expenses, my lawyer can file a personal injury claim for damages.

As my lawyer was explaining things, I was trying to understand.  This is how I heard things…..  Medical expenses, negotiated expenses…. transportation costs….. bike replacement …. other property damage …. work ….. pain and suffering.   Your past and the impact of your injury … flashbacks,  doctors reports.   Nightmares, hospital reports … depression, suicidal thoughts, anxiety, fear increased , Dr. Val notes.  Driver tried to evade blame … witness reports. … lifestyle altered dramatically statement from my boss that i could not work with the Wristjack because of my job duties….

OMG.  I never realized a lawyer did so much.  He had all kinds of papers, reports, communication notes.  He kept talking and trying to show me papers.  Medical expenses were itemized… did he take all those bills from my trash bag?  Schedules from my boss that showed my “typical” work ….what?  Written documentation from Dr. Val.. what?  Jessie was listening and I was losing trackIt seemed to become so complicated. My head was spinning… “I just want a new bike” I kept thinking….

I heard “after presenting the demand, and getting a response, and presenting another demand …. how does x hundred xx sound to settle?”  I suddenly felt a wave of depression.   x hundred is barely enough to pay for a new bike… What about all the money I owe Jessie?  What about all those medical bills… thousands and thousands and tens of thousands of dollars?  I looked at Jessie and then at my lawyer and said “you mean i won xxx… ah..  x hundred xx?”

After that came out of my mouth, I felt REALLY stupid, as I saw Jessie glance at my lawyer.  She looked at me, as I was rubbing my hands through my messy hair… “LT, its ok.  Not x hundred xx, x hundred xx thousand.  Do you understand?”  I just looked at her.  I had no idea what she was talking about.  See, I understand “hundred” because I make a couple hundred dollars  a week when I work.  I understand “thousands” because I make like $15,000 a year when I work.  Was she talking hundreds or thousands or ????

I just sat there.

Jessie then took a piece of paper and wrote something on it.  I just sat there.  She moved close to me and this is  what was on the paper:

x00 = x hundred

x000  = x thousand

x0,000 = x0 thousand

x00,000 = x hundred thousand

She watched me looking stupid at the paper.

“LT, that money will pay all your medical bills, which have been reduced by 45% from the original total; as well as some for future bills …  plus 8 months compensation from lost work, transportation expenses like the bus or cabs, other damages like your sweatshirts that had to be cut up for the wristjack, and your jeans that were ripped at the accident, a new bike, and some extra for pain and suffering.  He can show you how he figured that amount out.  The law firm will also take 30%.  The settlement is based on your total medical expenses, not the negotiated reduced expenses.  You will get an accounting statement that will show everything.”

I just sat there.  I was still not exactly getting it.  That was alot to listen to…

My lawyer said something like “I believe it is a generous settlement.  A jury might award you some more, because your life will pull at heartstrings, and your injuries clearly cause physical and emotional pain and suffering, but honestly I am not sure it will be worth it … for you.”  He smiled at me.

I just sat there… confused … overwhelmed … excited … and unbelievably  scared

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the lawyer better win me a new bike non-deserving

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  • 1. bec  |  January 18, 2012 at 2:22 am

    You deserve every penny, LT. Did you agree to take the settlement offer? What does Jessie think about that number? Hugs.

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  • 2. abbys momma  |  January 18, 2012 at 2:24 am

    Well after expenses that should get you one darn good bike!

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  • 3. YW  |  January 18, 2012 at 2:29 am

    wooooooooooooohoooooo that is Awesome LT, so should be no problem to pay you phone bill this month.. ;-) You so deserve it,
    so glad you got a great lawyer AND your friend KC.. you should treat her and her parents for dinner (can be just pizza but it would be nice gesture) or buy KC flowers? This is so so great, I also know it will not solve all your problems but I hope you are still smiling!! I would suggest to have KC’s parents help you deal with the money open a savings account and maybe put some limit on what you can spend so when you have days that you don’t remember what you did that you do not do something crazy with that money.. you hear?
    but what a relieve you must feel.. hope you gave KC and her parents some Huge hugs.. sweet dreams/ happy dreams LT.. !

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    • 4. michelle  |  January 18, 2012 at 3:41 pm

      I think thats a really good idea. Open a savings account with limits so your parts dont go spending it all!

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  • 5. caroline  |  January 18, 2012 at 2:34 am

    Sounds like you had a good attorney. I think “pain and suffering” is estimated 2-5 times medical expenses (or more if real severe injuries). Have you thought about a structured settlement, so that the money is given to you over time?

    Keep talking to Jessie and Dr. Val until you understand what is happening! :)

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  • 6. Cookie  |  January 18, 2012 at 2:35 am

    I’m glad Jessie was there with you. She sounds like a nice woman. I think anyone would have been overwhelmed by all the stuff the lawyer was saying and Jessie seems like she was a good support.

    I’m happy that your bills will be paid, and you will have enough money for a replacement bike and some extra on top of that. It must be a lot to think about and process, and I bet that’s scary and exciting to think about right now.

    I hope you’re healing from your injuries. I’m thinking about you, LT.

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  • 7. Cookie  |  January 18, 2012 at 2:50 am

    p.s. I’m sorry that Moonlight has that bump/lump, but I’m really happy that you will have money to help pay for any checkups or medical treatments for her :)

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  • 8. Christy  |  January 18, 2012 at 3:11 am

    This is wonderful, LT!!! I’m so happy for you! I know it seems overwhelming, but this settlement (or compensation if you decide to go to trial) is going to get back on your feet and then some!!!

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  • 9. lifemultiplied  |  January 18, 2012 at 3:20 am

    If it wasn’t after midnight at our apartment, I’d be whooping it up LOUD for you right now, LT. What great news! I’m so happy for you! I wish you hadn’t gone through all of that but I’m so glad you’re getting good compensation. Enjoy having the bills paid, new clothes, enough to eat, a great new bike and so on–you deserve it!

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  • 10. Christina  |  January 18, 2012 at 3:48 am

    Dear LT,
    Money doesn’t really make people happy, but I view it like Forest Gump did: When you have it, it’s one less thing to have to worry about. (I don’t have any money myself, and I’m not materialistic, but sometimes I feel life would be a bit easier with some extra cash.)
    I’m saying this because this settlement is not going to solve all your problems, but I sure hope it makes some things easier for you in this life.
    I’m glad you have such a good lawyer.
    Sincerely,
    Christina

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  • 11. ella  |  January 18, 2012 at 3:54 am

    Just follow what jessie said. This thing is really difficult to comprehend, i don’t get it. Just make sure it cover your medical bills+bike+moonlight bill. It would be good to save some money to buy some gifts for kc’s fam,too. Or for yourself. What do you want lt? Now you have money ;) buy comforter and blankie, have a massage or go to amusement park? You deserve it ;)

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  • 12. Crumble  |  January 18, 2012 at 3:55 am

    LT!!!!!!!! Money is not everything, but it sure as HELL helps!!!!

    You are going to be able to pay everything off!!!! And get a new bike!!! And maybe, if you choose, you could go to collage! You ARE smart enough – and you could help so many people!

    You are going to be able to go shopping, and buy a bed or WHATEVER YOU WANT!

    You may want to get paid in installments, or set someone up (like Jesse) who will make sure that the money is used ‘wisely’.

    I am very financially aware, but I know that if I ever won or was awarded a sum of money that I would get help managing it because otherwise I would spend it unwisely….

    I know it sucked going through this – I am still sorry it happened, but I am thankful that the money is going to help you.

    I am happy that you will get a settlement, and I hope the wrist is feeling better!

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    • 13. Crumble  |  January 18, 2012 at 5:31 am

      I can’t wait until you share the news with Dr Val – I bet that she rejoices with you.

      Congrats on making it through this hard and horrible time. I know it was a battle, and I hope your wrist won’t give you any more trouble.

      Thinking of you, and celebrating with you tonight.

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  • 14. Tash  |  January 18, 2012 at 4:06 am

    I’m so pleased for you and this piece of good news is a bright light in a darkening day. So now you get to throw away the financial stress of owing money and go bike shopping!

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  • 15. A.S.  |  January 18, 2012 at 5:59 am

    oh I am so glad to hear this!! LT, don’t feel badly about not always following everything said at this type of appointment– most people don’t. My husband recently told me he wanted to start tape recording doctor’s visits b/c he could never remember 1/2 of what was said.

    The structured settlement is a good idea– it would give you a lump sum to pay off your debts, then send you money each month/year- however it is set up. If they don’t want to do this you can also buy an annuity that accomplishes much the same purpose. Sends you something each month and the rest is earning interest.

    Congratulations– I’m so glad you had a good lawyer who carefully collected all your expenses– I’m sure that made a big difference to the insurance company.

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    • 16. Crumble  |  January 18, 2012 at 2:08 pm

      Structured Settlement!!! That’s it! I was trying so hard to think of the terminology!

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  • 17. Nightaura  |  January 18, 2012 at 6:48 am

    I knew you would most likely get “6 figures” as they call hundreds of thousands of dollars. I am glad you will not have to worry about your medical bills, paying Jessie back, and getting a bike. I would see about what is called an annuity or as A.S. said, a structured settlement. Basically what that would mean is you would get enough up front to take care of paying everything off and then instead of getting the rest in one big amount, you would get monthly or yearly payments (depending on how it is set up). This way you have money for years and years. Sometimes when people get hundreds of thousands of dollars, they spend it very quickly and then struggle again. Good luck!

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  • 18. cissykai  |  January 18, 2012 at 6:51 am

    I am so happy for you I have tears in my eyes, :D … Wow :)

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  • 19. Melissa  |  January 18, 2012 at 8:05 am

    Aw, that’s wonderful, LT. You deserve it! Don’t worry, Jessie will help you with anything you don’t understand.

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  • 20. Carmin  |  January 18, 2012 at 8:06 am

    This is great news LT. Congratulations! This will make your life a little easier. And thank you for continuing the blog; still reading even if I don’t comment very often.

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  • 21. MamaMama  |  January 18, 2012 at 8:28 am

    I am glad you had a good lawyer and I am glad you had Jesse. This was nice to read. I am happy for you.

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  • 22. Lisa  |  January 18, 2012 at 8:36 am

    L.T. – I don’t mean to be “Debbie Downer”, I just want you to think things through. I know that seems like a lot of money to you but before you accept it, sit down and do all the math. The lawyer will more than likely take his cut and the doctors bills will continue because these injuries will plague you later on in life, trust me, I know first hand and the insurance company will make you sign something that says they wont be liable for recurring injuries once you accept the settlement. What they are paying you for should be any and ALL expenses incurred from the accident, your attorneys fees, future restitution for pain (and you will feel these injuries again when you’re older!) and future medical bills, pain and suffering (which it sounds like you had plenty of), and any loss of function that will prevent you from doing certain types of work in the future (wrist?). I cant tell from your post if its $100,000 or more but I can tell you it can and should be at least $100,000 after all those expenses. Good luck. I’m so glad you’re okay!

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  • 23. butterflysblog  |  January 18, 2012 at 9:08 am

    Sweet LT – I am sure all of this is overwhelming. Remember though, Jessie was with you and she wouldn’t let anyone take advantage of you, be it lawyers or whoever. You have suffered and this money is owed to you to try to make things right. While its true that money doesn’t solve all problems, it sure solves money problems!!!

    You are awesome.
    -Butterfly

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  • 24. Linka  |  January 18, 2012 at 9:52 am

    Morning LT! SO glad you posted, was starting to get worried! Glad to see it was needless!

    (((SMILES and HUGS)))! Confusing, yes, WONDERFUL? You bet! How awesome that you will get what is due you, and then some. I agree with the other bloggers about getting your money over time after taking care of all the bills. That sounds like the most practical and secure way…oh, I am just thinking of some of your dreams that can come true for you now! Especially Midnight’s treatment and care. And a new bike! Woo Hoo! How about a trip ti see Ella, I think it is, in Indonesia??? or here to Ohio to see me and my heart daughter? (Smile, wishful thinking!) Enjoy, but be smart (which you are, very!) Blessings!

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    • 25. ella  |  January 18, 2012 at 5:13 pm

      Seeing Indonesia is a good idea ;) I am still here in US though and won’t be back till next 4 years…In Indonesia, you are my sister so you don’t need to spend the money, I will pay. And Linka, you are welcome if you want to see Indonesia. Julia Roberts went there to shoot Eat,,Pray and Love. Never see the movie or read the book, though :p

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      • 26. Linka  |  January 19, 2012 at 12:57 am

        Some day, Ella, I would love it…maybe when you go back :)

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        • 27. ella  |  January 19, 2012 at 12:35 pm

          You will like it :)

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  • 28. Michy  |  January 18, 2012 at 10:22 am

    Oh goodness, it’s so confusing isn’t it? And overwhelming too. My settlement wasn’t that big and it was still tough to understand. Like all those other folks, I think an annuity or structured settlement is probably the easiest way to go. Or you could have Jessie and family or Dr Val help you find a financial adviser you can trust to help manage the money.

    You will be able to get your new bike, whatever kind you want. You will be able to take excellent care of your precious animals. And you will be able to buy some things that are yours and yours alone, just because you like them. That’s a wonderful thing, and I’m so happy it will happen.

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  • 29. Splintered  |  January 18, 2012 at 10:58 am

    Maybe it is time for a DVD player and some old cartoons, then KC can come and hang out at your place! I am sorry you were hurt, but maybe this money will help make life a little easier for awhile. ((LT))

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  • 30. Lisa  |  January 18, 2012 at 11:37 am

    This is good news. You went through an awful lot for that money and it will be great to be able to pay off your bills and have some money for your future. I can see how it’s a bit overwhelming and maybe even scary. It is easy to blow through money, even when you are old and experienced like me. I think some financial planning advice is a great idea. Also, you might find people coming out of the woodwork to be your friends. Just take your time with decisions and ask for advice when you need it.

    This really is good news and a great start for 2012. I hope and pray this is an amazing year of healing and growth for you.

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  • 31. Jen  |  January 18, 2012 at 11:54 am

    Congratulations! I am glad to read that you got compensated for all your pain and suffering. 2012 is off to great start for you. Hope to read about many other good things happening to you.

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  • 32. The Sleeper  |  January 18, 2012 at 12:01 pm

    Good news LT. After all that you went through, I am glad that your attorney worked hard to get a nice settlement. It is a lot of money and as Lisa said, it is easy to blow. Be careful, especially since you are not accustomed to having money.

    I am assuming from your description that your medical bills were reduced, but your settlement was based on your total bills? Did those bills account for future medical expenses? For example, if your wrist starts to ache or get stiff or you develop arthritis? You should check all the medical bills. I read a statistic that said 80% of hospital bills contain errors. I am not encouraging “ambulance chasing” but I do believe you should get a fair outcome. Good luck.

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  • 33. An Ordinary American  |  January 18, 2012 at 12:23 pm

    Sleeper makes an excellent point.

    Before signing, I would urge you to contact your doctors and get estimates on future medical-related expenses for your wrists, along with any other issues or concerns regarding your “other” injuries.

    Additionally, I would check with an OBGYN and see if this injury has affected your ability to give birth. Not withstanding other trauma that may have occurred prior to this accident (trauma suffered at the hands of your bio-sperm/egg donors), but if this injury has affected IN ANY WAY your ability to naturally bear a child, then the lawyer needs to know and needs to push for more. A LOT more.

    Whether or not you will or will not choose to have children in the future has no bearing. It is your body and it was functional prior to a reckless driver causing massive and traumatic injury to it.

    Secondly, please, please, PLEASE consider the following:

    1. Pay your outstanding bills. I would even negotiate into the settlement the at-fault party’s insurance directly paying those bills, with receipts being cc’d to your lawyer and yourself.

    2. Have your dog checked out, but do NOT tell your vet you just received a settlement. That is nobody’s business but your own.

    3. Do something nice for your friend KC and her mom. You don’t have to buy anything expensive, but I think repaying any money/loans goes without saying, but then do something nice with them–maybe a dinner or trip to a park or special place–to show your appreciation.

    Money never shows appreciation the way physical acts of kindness and love do.

    4. Set a percentage of that money aside for a small investment account, leave it, and don’t touch it except to add to it when and where you can. I once forgot about $1200 worth of stock I had when I was in college after leaving the military. Twenty years later, my secretary tells me she saw my name in the paper for one of those “You may have money” ads. Sure enough, my $1200 I’d invested over almost four long years, was now worth over $12,000 barely fourteen years later.

    I used that money as a down payment for our first house.

    Point is, you’re getting a break and you earned it the hard way. Too many people blow the money and then a year later, find themselves broke again and wondering how/why.

    You’re a very intelligent young lady with very good instincts–especially when it comes to survival. The future has always been a place that seemed to make you nervous. Well now you have a safety net for the future, and not just a net, but opportunity.

    Good luck.

    –AOA

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    • 34. Linka  |  January 19, 2012 at 1:26 am

      You are such a good soul to share this advice with LT.

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      • 35. Pat  |  January 19, 2012 at 10:04 pm

        I agree that this is good advice, but your attorney is the one who should pay the medical bills, especially as he or she was the one who negotiated them down by 45%. I would never trust payment of these obligations to the “at fault” party (or their insurance company).

        I know you still have the option to accept this offer or not. Please discuss that thoroughly with your lawyer so he/she can tell you what to expect if your case goes to trial.

        Either way, your future is looking more financially secure, and that has to be a relief! I am happy for you, LT! ((Hugs))

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  • 36. Jen  |  January 18, 2012 at 12:33 pm

    LT, you deserve every penny of your settlement, so don’t ever think that you don’t. I’m really glad that KC’s Mom was with you, she seems like a wonderful woman who cares about you and who will look out for your best interest. Once you get your big settlement, and you pay everyone back, be WISE with what is left over. Make sure you use it for yourself and ONLY for yourself. Do not let people take advantage of you and your money. You deserve every single penny and I really hope the extra will make your life better. You’re such a great and amazing person, I hope you get some happiness from this.

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  • 37. pam  |  January 18, 2012 at 12:42 pm

    being frugle is very smart, but i still think you and KC should go to disnneyland

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    • 38. Lindee  |  January 18, 2012 at 3:06 pm

      I agree!!! :grin:

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    • 39. ella  |  January 18, 2012 at 5:18 pm

      A great idea LT!!!

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  • 40. Whizpuff  |  January 18, 2012 at 1:30 pm

    Thank you for making my day- so so happy for you! :)

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  • 41. Jan  |  January 18, 2012 at 1:32 pm

    Thank you, God! Please continue to watch over LT :)

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  • 42. Lindsay  |  January 18, 2012 at 1:59 pm

    Hooray!! I’m so happy for you! Money fixes very few things, but man, it’s nice to have those things fixed.

    I think everyone has given you great advice but ultimately it’s yours to spend and I hope you will ask for and take advice from the people in your life that you trust about how to take care of it so it lasts and is there when you need it. Managing money is really hard, so it’s definitely a sign of strength and wisdom to seek wise counsel about it.

    My advice (that you didn’t ask for, LOL)? Pay off bills, put some aside in savings, spend just a BIT on silliness and creating happy memories, and THEN… spend some to improve yourself in a way that will never wear out or be lost or get old- Like learning a new skill or going to school.

    You’re SO smart but you’ve said learning is hard- it sounds like now you could afford tutoring (or what’s called “educational therapy”- basically “learning how to learn”). It doesn’t have to be book-learning either- you could take art classes, learn a martial art, take guitar or piano lessons, anything! – But learning something new might help you discover something you’ll LOVE and wonder how you lived without, and is a way to feel good about yourself in a way that you’ll always have long after the settlement is gone (hopefully a long time from now!)

    Congrats dear LT.

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  • 43. Ross  |  January 18, 2012 at 2:28 pm

    LT this is a good thing!!! Money is not going to solve all your problems but will help a lot!!! Maybe you can even have some left to pay for your school!!! Maybe you should start learning a little about money so you dont get confused.
    I am gladd Jessie was there with you!!
    xoxo

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  • 44. Julie  |  January 18, 2012 at 3:15 pm

    This is great news! So you will be able to pay everyone and everything back and still have leftover?!? Amazing. Plus your medical bills were reduced- I say take that money and do something awesome for yourself. You deserve this so much and I’m so happy something is going your way!

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  • 45. eemt81  |  January 18, 2012 at 3:34 pm

    Good. You absolutely deserve it. And you might want to ask Jessie if, after everything is done, she can help you set up a trust fund or something. I’m glad you brought her with you. Hugs!

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  • 46. michelle  |  January 18, 2012 at 3:38 pm

    DOing a happy dance for you LT. You deserve every single penny!!

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  • 47. Becca  |  January 18, 2012 at 4:42 pm

    LT, I’m really, really happy for you, but I also realize that it must be very overwhelming. I bet Jessie would be willing to help you set up some accounts. That way you could buy the things you want and need–like your bike and new clothes–while saving some up for the future. Congratulations–you deserve every penny of it.

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  • 48. Julie  |  January 18, 2012 at 5:12 pm

    LT,
    I’m so happy everything finally got settled and you are able to pay all your bills and then some!! Yayayay!!! Congratulations!!!
    Julie

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  • 49. Amber  |  January 18, 2012 at 6:55 pm

    I have been praying that you would update soon! I’m thrilled to hear that you will be awarded a settlement that is fair. You deserve it. If you trust KC’s mom, then run your financial questions by her. I’m so excited for you…to see how you can turn another horrible circumstance into something good and positive. Love you girl!

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  • 50. Melody  |  January 18, 2012 at 7:19 pm

    Hi LT, if no one has suggested this, go with Jessie to talk to a financial advisor at the bank, so you can protect your money. I’d also be careful about who in real life you tell. You don’t want people to try to take advantage of you. Best, Melody

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  • 51. Krista  |  January 18, 2012 at 7:35 pm

    Dearest LT, I am so happy that you will finally be able to afford the nice things that you deserve! May I also second the idea of a structured settlement or an annuity, so you can ensure that you will have agood income for a long time?

    I’d like to see your dream bike, if you can find a good picture of it online…you deserve wonderful things, and I hope that this is the beginning of wonderful things for you!

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  • 52. margo2253  |  January 18, 2012 at 7:37 pm

    Hi LT, As a foster mom and co-founder of a grassroots initiative called Unite 4 Foster Kids I love your blog and especially appreciate your tips for foster parents. We’re getting a foster parent support group together next month and would like to use your tips to get some discussions started. Are you okay with that?
    Also, I’m new to the world of blogs…as a matter of fact, yours is the first and only blog I’ve read. As a result, though, I’m very blog-challenged and so have a very basic question: how do I access post posts of yours? I saw your Best Blog nominations a while back and wanted to explore them but now I can’t find that post. How do I do that? Thanks for your answers and your blog. The world needs more open and honest people like you.

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    • 53. Kay  |  January 18, 2012 at 8:54 pm

      If you’re on the main blog page (looneytunes09.wordpress.com) just scroll down a bit and you should see the blog nominations post called “And the winners are…”. direct link: http://looneytunes09.wordpress.com/2012/01/03/and-the-winners-are/

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      • 54. Kay  |  January 18, 2012 at 8:56 pm

        I hope that’s the post you were looking for, lol. They are some very interesting blogs!

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    • 55. LooneyTunes  |  January 19, 2012 at 11:19 am

      Hi Margo,
      welcome. i was new to blogging when i started, so i get that it is confusing. i still can’t figure out alot of things like laying out my pictures, etc. sometimes i have to ask the wordpress people! LOL

      if you click on the title of my blog, it will bring you to the top of the page and you can scroll down through all the past posts. at the bottom, it will say “Older posts” and if you click on that, it will bring up another page of older posts. keep scrolling down and “Older posts” will be at the bottom again.

      you can also use the calendar on the right and click on the months shown, or you can use the drop-menu under ARCHIVES to see all the months. you can select one month from the drop menu.

      mostly you just have to click around, but clicking on the title of the blog will always bring you back to the “front” page and you can scroll down.

      sure, feel free to use my hints in your support group. i am fine with people using my stuff to help foster parents, etc. i just ask that you mention the link to my blog because i find that many readers share good comments that are helpful too … and i keep writing more tips too.

      peace.

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  • 56. margo2253  |  January 18, 2012 at 7:40 pm

    Wow, LT!! Your head must be spinning, but finally some good things spinning around!!! You so deserve all the goodness that will come your way. What a lousy way to come into some blessings, but the world works in strange ways!!

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  • 57. Kay  |  January 18, 2012 at 8:48 pm

    I seriously want to cry, re-reading about your injuries — that is SO AWFUL. You sure as hell deserve that money, and the low-life who hit you deserves to lose it and whatever else is coming to them for trying to “evade blame.” I am so glad you’re finally getting compensated and you don’t need to worry about the medical bills anymore!

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  • 58. Shae  |  January 18, 2012 at 9:34 pm

    Glad to hear that the settlement is going well.

    I’m super sorry to hear about all of Moonlights problems, I dont know if you’ve ever heard anyone say this before, but I feel like this fits yours and Moonlights situation:

    “If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together keep me in your heart, I’ll stay there forever”

    On a lighter note, it sure looks like you’ll be able to get a new bike :)
    have a great week, LT!

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  • 59. michelle v  |  January 18, 2012 at 9:50 pm

    so glad u have some good money news. i agree about the financial planning. you could ask jesse to help with that. take care. will be praying it all goes well.

    ♥ michelle

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  • 60. Foster Mom in Training  |  January 18, 2012 at 10:13 pm

    Take a deep breath and let it all sink in. You might ask if KC’s family would recommend a financial adviser. I know you are overwhelmed right now. Just take it one step at a time. ((hugs))

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  • 61. anelie64  |  January 18, 2012 at 10:25 pm

    You might want to, with Jessie’s help, find an attorney who specializes in trusts to help you set one up. The advantage of a trust over an annuity or structured settlement is that, if you have extraordinary expenses in the future, you can access extra money from the trust for them.

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  • 62. biojen  |  January 18, 2012 at 10:25 pm

    I’m so happy for you, LT. I agree with some of the advice. Get a financial adviser and set up some kind of account that one of your parts can’t drain without you knowing about it. This will also help you keep from splurging on something you don’t need. When I was hit and got some money I used it all to buy a more expensive car. That was the worst decision I ever made. Now I am in constant pain because I can’t afford to treat the injuries I never recovered from. I’m not saying you’ll always have pain, but you should definitely prepare for the possibility of future medical costs.

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  • 63. qfpilot  |  January 18, 2012 at 11:05 pm

    Congrats LT you deserver every penny

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  • 64. Kat  |  January 18, 2012 at 11:47 pm

    I am so excited (and a little scared) for you!

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  • 65. Kat  |  January 18, 2012 at 11:51 pm

    Also – I don’t know if you read the comments section, but here goes:

    I used to work as a secretary at a Personal Injury law firm, and I want to go to law school for grad school. I definitely agree — a hundred percent — to check with an OBGYN to make sure your ability to have children or safe sex isn’t affected.

    It doesn’t matter if you don’t want to; the fact is that the driver’s carelessness may have taken the choice away from you.

    I’m not a lawyer (yet), but maybe I can try and answer some questions.

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  • 66. Linka  |  January 19, 2012 at 1:45 am

    Good Evening/ Early Morning, LT! <>

    I began this day (day you posted) with your good news, and I ended it
    reading all of your blog crews’ posts…

    LT, I am turning 60 today (now, lol!). I feel like I’m still 18 inside (there is a physiological reason, for this, BTW, and I want you to know you will feel this way at 60, too, lol!). I ‘ve worked with many kids and adults-young and old over the years, and I KNOW how tempting it will be to spend spend spend…(been there done that). AOA and all the others are gifting you with words of experience and wisdom, like good parents do with their children. Like a mother would…remember just a few days ago, I told you we’re all your mom?<> lol! ( And consider this- look at how many “elders” you’ve got (read: grand ‘mothers’) who are sharing what they have learned in life…bet if we totalled all of our ages it would blow us all away how much life experience we’ve had.)

    Remember I said to expect a miracle? Your potential fortune (I bet it feels like that, doesn’t it?) and all of these words of wisdom I do believe could be seen as a miracle…and I would say a MAJOR miracle for you.

    I am thanking the higher power I believe in for your miracle. Expect more!!! (I am having quite a few of them in my life right now, too! lol).
    If you follow what your heart and your gut tell you are the right choices, and if the advice you’ve been already given (and will continue to get, I am sure) matches the feelings in your heart and gut, and you let those feeling guide your choices, then you will soar, girl, soar! Blessings!

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  • 67. Cesarea  |  January 19, 2012 at 2:42 am

    I am crying because I am so happy for you, LT. You deserve every damn penny.

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  • 68. Breezer  |  January 19, 2012 at 2:46 am

    Great to hear the good news LT! Sorry it is confusing you, ask Jessie to explain it to you and what to do next. I am really, really happy for you! Whoo Hooo! :)

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  • 69. Dinah  |  January 19, 2012 at 5:42 pm

    Holy shit! You can get a better bike! Do not get a “boy bar” on this one. Glad that it is settled for you so you can pay back, get back your transportation and get on with getting better. Go to Target and get some new shirts!

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  • 70. Staci  |  January 19, 2012 at 10:41 pm

    WOO HOO!!! So happy for you! Good things coming your way LT, I hope this is only the beginning of the universe and God wanting to slowly but surely let you know you are deserving, you are worthy, you are justified. fantastic news!

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  • 71. Jules  |  January 20, 2012 at 6:15 pm

    This is great news lt, really happy for you, you do deserve every penny and more. I have a feeling this will be just the start of good things that will happen to you :)

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