families for sale
February 27, 2012 at 2:00 am 34 comments
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Wanted to buy: A Family
One 20-something with messy hair who loves sweets and apple juice. Can read children’s books and comic books, not sure about any other books. Doesn’t know shit about politics, geography, physics, chemistry, biology, english, math, history… ok you get it…. BUT, can write from the heart. Loves animals, nature, and the feeling of the warm sun on her messy hair-head. Loves to watch the ocean and taste the salt that pelts her face from the rough waves. Can’t swim, but runs fast. Has many parts that can play with children of all ages and both genders. Doesn’t attach well, trust at all, and is paranoid about the motives of everyone. Time and consistency needed to help get past those issues and intense fear. Really sweet when feeling safe.
Needs 1 family. Race and ethnicity really not important. Family can’t yell, beat-up, sexually hurt, or lock in closets, rooms, or basements. Threats do not work either. Family must be calm, stable, sensitive, honest and funny. Creativity and sense of humor is a must. Must have the time to teach smart things and life things and be willing to repeat as needed. Imperative that family likes pets. I come with 3 furry friends who are more important than life itself…. they may in fact save lives. Oh yeah, and 1 brand new sage-colored chair that reclines in 3 positions…perfect for any space.
Now that I have money… where can I buy a family?
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parisien | February 27, 2012 at 2:15 am
you are so sweet…
but the truth is: the more money you invest to buy a family, the greater the risk to get one who is only after the money… That’s what regular families do too (go after the money, abandon people once they don’t have or give any)
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Lisa | February 27, 2012 at 2:40 am
Loved this. Especially that you said some nice things about yourself.
You already know the best things in life are free.
Enjoy your sage chair!
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Dinah | February 27, 2012 at 3:14 am
I would think we are a good match, but, I am not an animal person at all. And sometimes I yell. Mostly I just mutter under my breath, a lot. Don’t buy a family. Get some swim lessons with that money.
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Krista | February 27, 2012 at 6:24 am
I’m glad you accepted the settlement, LT…but any family worth choosing should not be interested in your money. You are worth so much more than any amount of money, because you are priceless and precious and wonderful all on your own.
Lisa’s right — you said some very nice things about yourself, and that is good to see!
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pam | February 27, 2012 at 6:24 am
if you have to buy them, you most likely are better off without them.
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Nightaura | February 27, 2012 at 6:31 am
A family you have to buy isn’t a real family. I wish I could have you join our crazy little family. We have 2 cats, a foster dog and 2 foster adult-kids. We seem to get the 18+ crowd here, as in my state kids in care can stay in care until 23 if they are in school full time. I wish all states would allow that. I do yell sometimes, but I try not to cuz it usually doesn’t help the situation. And a nice new green chair would be pretty cool. We have never had new couches. We plan to move to warm climate in 4 years, but our kid-adults can come too if they want. I hope you find your family without buying them. I hope you appointed a trustee or someone to help you manage your money so a “family” doesn’t take advantage of you.
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Confirmed FM | February 27, 2012 at 7:35 am
We’re one in a hundred good families that would adopt you!
Hang in there. You are appreciated and loved more than you will ever know.
C & K
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Confirmed FM | February 27, 2012 at 7:39 am
P.S. That’s just a hundred good families we’ve gotten to know and come in contact with over many years that we are sure could/would love and protect you. I’m sure there are many, many more families out there that would love to love you!
Concerned FM
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Living Day by Day | February 27, 2012 at 8:57 am
Family for sale:
Mom is a Nurse by trade, but is taking a year off to get her special needs baby adjusted. She too grew up in Foster Care and shares similiar stories as you. She will teach you in a gentle manner what you need to know in life to stand on your own two feet. She may be rigid and stick to her points (Like Dr Val is), but only has your best interest at heart. Mom travels a lot and has a goal to see every state in the US. She loves to hike, ride bikes, and do outdoor things.
Son #1-10 years old and was adopted through Foster Care. He had a rough 5 years, but found a true home with mom. He is a straight A student and loves his many foster brothers and his new baby brother.
Son #2 is adopted and has Shaken baby syndrome-He is blind and special needs. He always wakes up with a smile and loves to cuddle.
Price-No money involved. Only kind words, hugs, and friendship. As you are aware even blood relations can use you for your money. LT…I wish I could take you under my wing and show you the ropes. I kknow trust is always going to be an issue for both of us. Trust is earned.
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Splintered | February 27, 2012 at 9:50 am
Beautifully written. It would be nice if people could choose families and buy them. Select from a book and then have meetings. Lots of us would like that idea! ((LT))
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michelle v | February 27, 2012 at 9:54 am
love this post. and like splinter’s response. i think you will realize in time that KC’s family came into your life for this reason and probably embrace you even more if given the chance. take care.
♥ michelle
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Foster Mom in Training | February 27, 2012 at 10:00 am
((hugs))
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Linka | February 27, 2012 at 10:06 am
Hi LT, What a wonderful and positive post! I was so worried about you the other day. I agree with Lisa and Krista-great to see you acknowledging your strengths!
Me and my girl aren’t for sale, but if you want to come to Ohio you can have us for free. We’ll take spring break and come get ya!
(Since you mention loving the ocean spray on your face, I am figuring you are on east or west coast or around Florida, so we will have to allow enough time to get there and back!)-We were looking for somewhere to go for break, so this would fit right in!
Our house is small, but cozy, comfortable, and the neighborhood is safe and laid back…neighbors are cool…
We LOVE furry four-leggeds (have a cat and dog), and we are getting ready to have chickens (for the eggs only-couldn’t eat them, lol!)…we don’t yell or scream, no locks on any inside doors, we enjoy “do what you want Sundays” (i.e., don’t have to comb hair, get dressed, or do anything you don’t want to do), laugh a lot, garden and spend lots of time outside, go camping and exploring…We both LOVE sweets (alas, my daughter has been diagnosed pre-diabetic, so we’ve had to cut way back-but I sneak mine in away from home, LOL!)…I taught her how to paint a floor this weekend,,,I have all the time in the world to devote to teaching what you want to learn, and am more patient that just about anyone I’ve ever met…I don’t believe in punishment (discipline, yes)…have never (and never will) sexually or physically hurt anyone…I look for gifts and talents and build on strengths…would welcome all your parts and enjoy them as part of our family…do you like amusement parks? We do, getting ready to get a season pass…like to ride bikes, take walks, look at the stars, watch movies…listen to all kinds of music…
Lest you think I am not serious, I AM SERIOUS! Will give you more info about us if you want…let me know…Love and Blessings!
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Linka | February 27, 2012 at 10:11 am
P.S.-My motives? TO help you get free of the chains that bind you, to give you a family, and to grow mine…
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Broken | February 27, 2012 at 10:38 am
You would not want a family you had to buy, Sweetie.
I agree with Lisa and Krista. Just hang with your good friend KC, and your furry friends.
I am glad you know that your writing is a beautiful part of you.
hugs…
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mvkath | February 27, 2012 at 10:38 am
Many (including me) of the people reading your blog have invited you to have some contact with them. I have already offered with my email address (mvkath@aol.com) as a way to start contact.
Here’s what you get with my package: I’m a little disgruntled with the foster care system — no, make that a LOT. So much so that I don’t have any fosters at home now – which means two big, empty bedrooms. I have two dogs and two cats. Your critters can come and everybody will have a new playmate. My daughter is now working in a program for aged-out foster kids – she has a lot of insight and experience. My son still lives here but is busy with his girlfriend and his career of being a paramedic. But the best part is that I live on an island…the ocean is EVERYWHERE! With strong legs and a good bike – you can get to every beach on the island! And the best part — if the chair you showed in the post a couple ago is your real chair. . .I’ve got the matcher!!!
I am a travel agent and cruise planner. I would suggest – if you are serious about meeting some of your blogees, make some initial contact, see if there is any chemistry and then I will help you to plan the travel that will let you have a short visit with anybody who is interested. Kathy
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KimB | February 27, 2012 at 11:55 am
Very funny that you mentioned the chair. I like when you do these, as they paint pictures of you. I wish there was adopt-a-family similar to how many people adopt children. Things are getting better, even if you can’t see it. Hang in there.
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Crumble | February 27, 2012 at 12:54 pm
WOW, LT… There are a lot of offers today… PLEASE be careful. I am sure that everyone has GREAT intentions, but you need to do what is best for you – and that can be a hard choice. (Hard to know what to do sometimes, you know?).
If you do investigate any of these options, please take it very, very, very slow. Start with phone calls etc, then a couple hours of visits here and there, then a sleep over or two, then a weekend, then a week etc. Don’t rush into anything.
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butterflysblog | February 27, 2012 at 11:01 pm
Sweet LT – I am going to agree with Crumble. If you decide to investigate these options, maybe you could ask Jessie and KC to work with you on this. I bet they would be happy to be involved in the process of you figuring out who you choose to be in your family. And this way, it affords you a little bit of protection. Like the rest of your blog crew, I am worried about your safety. You have probably thought of all this already, so forgive me for being protective.
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Ross | February 27, 2012 at 2:32 pm
L.T you are too precious. I love you mentioned positive things about. You forgot to mention many more.
I hope you find the family you are been looking for
xoxo
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Krista | February 27, 2012 at 4:48 pm
You know, LT, I would truly love to adopt you…but I’m not sure that you should leave the city you’re currently in. I mean, you are building a good relationship with Dr. Val, even though she says the wrong thing sometimes, and you have a good friend in KC, even though she can be annoying by taking you furniture shopping. You’re building healthy relationships with people, you’re (finally!) developing some stability in your short life.
One way or the other, a family should not be interested in your money — because the other commenters are completely, 100% right…a family that you buy is not a family that will be good for you or good to you. And dearest LT, you are such a special, talented, creative, unique person that you deserve the very best in a family and in life.
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Krista | February 27, 2012 at 4:58 pm
Oh, and I forgot to tell you, I saw some shoes in a store that reminded me of you — they are SO COOL! They were Converse sneaker lookalikes (the high-top ones) in different patterns: some pairs had a tie-dye pattern, some pairs were in neon colors with differently-colored laces, one pair was a black and white checkerboard pattern that had a red, blue, yellow, or green block every so often. One pair looked like one half was neon orange, the other half was neon green. The shoes just reminded me about the pair of shoes that you said you had wanted that had a bunch of different colors on them. I hope you splurge a little bit and get an awesome pair of colorful shoes for yourself!
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Crumble | February 27, 2012 at 10:25 pm
krista, I really liked your first comment and hope LT reads it carefully… (there are so many comments on here!).
LT, have you maybe thought about buying a house with your money? Even if you had a bit of ‘rent’ you needed to pay each month, it would be your HOME. Maybe KC could be your room mate?
Maybe it is a bad idea… I dunno. But be careful about those people who have suddenly stepped up to be your family… Call me paranoid – but where were they before today? you have stated all along that you wanted a mom… Maybe I am oversensitive or overprotective… Sorry if that is the case.
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Amber | February 27, 2012 at 7:56 pm
Oh how I want you to get your dream. I’m praying about it. You deserve it. This is your year, girl! Come to Charleston SC!
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Jen | February 27, 2012 at 9:16 pm
Well, money buys you free time because you don’t have to work as much, and in that free time you can take up hobbies and volunteer and take classes, which are all places you can meet people and make new friends who might gradually come to feel like family. The getting to know new people is work because it means tackling your anxiety – just as you did becoming friends with KC. However, having such a good friend has been worth the effort, hasn’t it? If you had a network of friends like that, it would be a kind of family. You’ve got a blog crew, and you could build your very own unique real-life crew.
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mary | February 27, 2012 at 9:42 pm
We need someone like you, We are a group of 5 little angels 2 girls and 3 boys and one mean mama to keep you all safe. we take your furry animals and we can all take care of each other, my kids realy need some one older in the group.
write me,
by the way do you know where your brother is?
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MamatoMany | February 27, 2012 at 10:18 pm
Thinking of you.
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ella | February 28, 2012 at 1:14 am
My advice : never buy love with money. Same applies when you choose spouse. I always tell my brother to take public bus for dating, so we know that the girl loves him not his car. But, he always fall over and over. Some girls can be very good at manipulating. Be careful LT. You know that Jessie and KC loves you when you had nothing, stick with them. Save the money for the poor and foster kids. Save some to visit me in 5 years.
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Cesarea | February 29, 2012 at 12:30 am
You have become a wonderful person without a family. I bet you end up using the money to improve your life and those of you around you in other ways.
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YW | February 29, 2012 at 12:32 am
Great Post LT, wish it was that simple …. I do wish I could get to know you, teach you fun sstuff and take you sailing (do you like the water) ? do you swim? give your family some extra hugs today cool about the new chair ! Hope you buy some more sstuff for just you!
Also make sure you take Jessie & KC out to dinner or buy them something fun/nice from you.. I think that would be nice.
Does KC have any pets? I know what you mean about your pets got an awesome dog, would not go anywhere without him!
Stay cool LT let us know about your adventures! Are you going to take classes like KC suggested. ?? I think that is an awesome idea!
sweet dreams!
YW
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casapinka | February 29, 2012 at 4:03 am
Be careful, LT. Please have KC’s mom help you get someone to manage your money and protect it from people who might not have your best interests at heart.
I’m glad you’re being cautious with the internet. Hard learned but you need to be so, so careful.
I think you know you can’t buy a family. And i agree that staying where you are and building on the relationships that you have is a good idea. The care of relationships takes time and effort. Maybe you could bring Chinese takeout to KC’s family as a thank you. A nice Family dinner that you “made!”
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divyogi1 | February 29, 2012 at 2:01 pm
Paying careful attention to your Copyright Notice. I’m a foster parent and part of a church foster care ministry, with a goal of encouraging more families to take their next step. I want to let them know that, however daunting the idea of fostering may be, they and their families can ‘fit’ what is needed. I’d love to be able to use your family description for them to recognize something in themselves. I’m not entirely sure if you want to give me an OK – based on your notes about emailing I suspect not – so hopefully this works as both a heads-up to you and an OK. Many thanks for the inspiration.
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Bannef | March 1, 2012 at 7:26 pm
I haven’t read very much of your stuff. But I’m guessing one day you’ll get a family, and not have to pay anything. Well, maybe cover a food bill or two.
And believe me, I am not talking about that ‘someday you’ll have a lovely wedding!’ bullshit. (Unless you want one, of course.) But families show up from all kinds of unusual places.
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Carly | March 8, 2012 at 8:57 pm
I am 31, adopting out of foster care, and would love to be your friend or mom. I am in Austin, Texas, and I’m betting (from your blog) that you don’t live in Texas. But I love animals (have an amazing whippet) and a true passion for loving those who feel unloved.
I’m guessing you won’t move states to join a family, but if you are ever in Austin or need a place to celebrate the holidays, I’m your gal. http://nowbeloved.blogspot.com
God bless you; your story is doing more good than you will ever know.