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Foster children “matter”


This is one of my favorites. This parable (?) is really quite beautiful.  It is short but makes so many incredible points that can relate to foster children. You all know I like to write analogies, and this could be of the best I have ever read…

A Single Starfish     

By Loren Eiseley, 1999

One day an old man was walking along the beach. It was low tide, and the sand was littered with thousands of stranded starfish that the water had carried in and then left behind. The man began walking very carefully so as not to step on any of the beautiful creatures. Since the animals still seemed to be alive, he considered picking some of them up and putting them back in the water, where they could resume their lives.

The man knew the starfish would die if left on the beach’s dry sand but he reasoned that he could not possibly help them all, so he chose to do nothing and continued walking.

Soon afterward, the man came upon a small child on the beach who was frantically throwing one starfish after another back into the sea.

The old man stopped and asked the child, “What are you doing?”

“I’m saving the starfish,” the child replied.

“Why waste your time?… There are so many you can’t save them all so what does is matter?” argued the man.

Without hesitation, the child picked up another starfish and tossed the starfish back into the water… It matters to this one,” the child explained.




See how this relates to foster children?

If you are like the old man in this story, and you ignore foster children, they will die.  Maybe not physically, but emotionally and spiritually. Many of them may never recover from the scars of laying on that beach waiting for someone to help them.

If you are like the child in this story, you see that there is hope and you keep trying.  “It matters” to each child who is tied up in the foster care system…..That they can be helped!  One at a time…..

Remember that the circumstances for which foster ca-foster-care-wide-horizontal2children come into care, live in care, and leave care ALL matter.

Please know that no matter what kids say, do, or act-out, most are incredibly hurt children who need adults to let them know they matter.

We need to be asking ourselves, how can we fix this broken system, how can we save the starfish, so that kids don’t leave it feeling like I did— Like I didn’t matter, like no-one gave a shit, like I wasn’t worth anything, because I still reflect that today…

Foster children’s lives are in the hands of so many other people….

….and it sure as hell, matters….

Children Discovering Starfish On Beach


August 5, 2018 at 5:39 pm 9 comments

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