planting has a purpose

September 29, 2018 at 7:07 pm 38 comments


i am so tired and depressed.  But i didnt lay around today… ok, well i did, but only after i planted some shrubs.  Have you ever done that?  i found it to be incredibly calming…


The front of the place I live looked like crap. So i went out and got these little shrubs and planted them.  i actually dug 4 holes and put the shrubs in.  For a moment when i was in the sun and had my hands covered in dirt and was talking to Tide about this (she was sitting on the porch), i felt less depressed and connected to the earth.  There was something about this process that was deeply impactful.

Plus, as you all know I am FASCINATbuttrfliesED with butterflies, when I was doing this, two butterflies were hovering around.

i just hope the shrubs don’t die… because i am not sure i did it 100% right.  If they don’t make it, i think i will get more depressed…


After experiencing this connection and process, i think all foster parents should do some planting with their foster children.  i know, some of you live in the city… well i do too.  Plant something in a pot.

It’s a cool way to reduce stress and of course that bonding thing you can get from this activity.  It seemed very connecting… Plus, it is something your foster kids can remember … and may even think about if they have to leave… That they left something that will keep a place in your space… and continue to grow  And that you can’t forget about them.  And if the kids stay with you for awhile, think about the growing cycle that you can all watch and experience together…

Connectedness… isn’t that something we all need?


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  • 1. ritalee8383  |  July 14, 2019 at 9:06 pm

    Hi LT!

    I hope something good happens to you this summer. Something sweet and lovely.

    Always thinking about you. ❤

  • 2. Sarah  |  June 17, 2019 at 1:36 am

    Hey. Just wanted to drop by and say hello. Been wondering how you’re doing? Please let us know how you are.

  • 3. Anonymous  |  May 31, 2019 at 10:37 am

    I hope things have evened out for you. I wish you well.

  • 4. Anonymous  |  May 20, 2019 at 9:13 pm

    Wondering how you are.

  • 5. Anonymous  |  April 25, 2019 at 6:44 pm

    Thinking of you LT.

  • 6. Anonymous  |  March 30, 2019 at 10:31 am

    Just letting you know you’re on my mind and that I wish the best for you.

  • 7. Peaceful  |  March 20, 2019 at 2:10 pm

    Well it’s springtime now. The perfect time for getting out there and doing more planting. Do you have any more plans with doing potted plants, shrubs or anything else? I love planting, but like you, I always worry if the plant will make it. I also really love butterflies myself. I hope you are doing well.

  • 8. Alice  |  February 22, 2019 at 2:53 pm

    Wow this is amazing to read! I haven’t looked at your blog for months as every time I did there was no update and it just got more and more disheartening. I’m so glad that you’re posting again, that you’re still going, that you have a new pet family now. I have missed you and was worried about you. The other day I thought about you when my hair was messy. Pretty much every time my hair is messy I think about you! I remember you used to talk about not knowing what to do with your messy hair. I have been following you since 2013.
    Take care.
    Hope you will update us soon.

  • 9. ritalee8383  |  February 15, 2019 at 10:56 pm

    I worry about you. I wonder how you are doing and hope that you are hanging in there while you adapt to your new situation.

    People care about you LT.

  • 10. Michelle  |  February 1, 2019 at 10:09 am

    Maybe do some indoor plants instead? Outdoor stuff can be so tricky with weather and pests and sunlight.

    My favorite indoor plants are the ZZ plant and snake plant (both are basically immortal) they are bad for dogs and cats though if they chew them, so they probably wouldn’t be good for you to have unless you have a safe place they couldn’t get to them. We have dogs (who couldn’t care less and can’t get to them anyway) but if we had a cat we’d have to be a lot more careful since cats can get anywhere.

    The ASPCA has a list of safe/unsafe plants

  • 11. ritalee8383  |  January 25, 2019 at 6:56 pm

    Hi LT! Thinking of you & wishing you well.

  • 12. jamz9999  |  December 27, 2018 at 5:05 pm

    I hope you had a good Christmas, LT. I know this time of year can be difficult. It certainly is for my daughters. Thinking of you.

  • 13. LooneyTunes  |  December 25, 2018 at 8:43 pm

    Not doing so great. 😦
    i planted these yellow ones and they are brown now. i thought they were supposed to survive freezing temperatures, but i guess not because they look sad. of the four i planted, 3 were yellow and one was red. the red one looks like it is doing ok., but definitely not the yellow ones.
    im not sure what i did wrong. i mixed with soil that i got from the gardening place and watered and they looked like they were making it. but then it froze…
    they looked great then, but now they look horrible. they didnt grow that much. i might have to replace them when it gets warm again?
    i think i planted late in the season here, because they were 1/2 price…

  • 14. Foster Mom in Training  |  December 25, 2018 at 9:34 am

    How are your shrubs?

  • 15. ritalee8383  |  December 21, 2018 at 6:46 am

    You are a strong person LT. Truly an inspiration. I hope you know that.

  • 16. Lynn/ Ethereal Highway  |  December 16, 2018 at 12:42 am

    Hi, LT. Nice to see you writing. I didn’t think I’d find anyone left from the old blogging days. I’ glad you’re finding pleasure in your gardening.

  • 17. Lynn/ Ethereal Highway  |  December 16, 2018 at 12:39 am

    LT!! It’s nice to know you’re back. I didn’t think I would find anyone left from the old blogging days. I’m glad for your joy in your yard. Sometimes being in touch with something can go a long way toward feeling a little better. Plus you have the accomplishment factor in making your home nice.


  • 18. ritalee8383  |  November 19, 2018 at 1:34 pm

    I’ve been thinking about you LT. Wishing you well.

  • 19. jamz9999  |  November 14, 2018 at 4:42 pm

    Hope you are doing okay. I check back regularly to see. Just letting you know that there are people out here that care about you.

  • 20. Ema  |  November 5, 2018 at 2:02 am

    This is not very well written.

  • 21. ritalee8383  |  October 26, 2018 at 11:32 pm

    Thing about you LT. I know you’re having a hard time right now. Just letting you know people care.

  • 22. dinah1007  |  October 24, 2018 at 1:15 pm

    That was me with the black thumb. Don’t know why it never puts my name in.

  • 23. Anonymous  |  October 23, 2018 at 2:13 pm

    I love to garden, have a black thumb though. Every year I try to grow watermelon. Haven’t got one yet. Planting and watching them grow is great, but I want to harvest something. Maybe next year! Never going to give up hope.

  • 24. Anonymous  |  October 9, 2018 at 12:58 am

    Love this and great advise! Thanks

  • 25. Elizabeth  |  October 4, 2018 at 8:35 am

    I completely agree with you about gardening. I stayed up most of the night reading your blog. I’m a mom and fostering has called to me for years. I donated a bunch of duffel bags and teddy bears to foster kids last year. I start my CASA training on Tuesday and will be assigned a case in November. I have two kids myself but I also want to foster after I do CASA. Your blog is helping me so much. I’m already a practitioner of peaceful parenting (no yelling, no spanking, use positive reinforcement, explain decisions) to my own children and I think peaceful parenting is the only way to parent a child. I want to bring that to foster kids’ lives. I am nervous but your blog is helping me.

  • 26. Jennifer Thut  |  October 1, 2018 at 10:24 am

    Great idea! I find gardening very relaxing too.

  • 27. Julia  |  October 1, 2018 at 9:33 am

    Love it! I’m a foster Mom and will start planting with the children, I’m sure it will also make them feel more at home like they are part of this new family!

    Thank You!

  • 28. Anonymous  |  September 30, 2018 at 10:11 am

    That is awesome! Thanks for this post We actually had bought some seeds and planting is on the schedule! Thank you I love your ideas and thoughts behind this as well! Also google: Plants that attract butterflies! And maybe plant one of those in your front area too!?? Have a great day LT!

  • 29. Brandy  |  September 30, 2018 at 10:10 am

    Great idea! I have tried to do vegetables with the kids, but never thought of planting something that would last long-term. I am glad you got a chance to feel connected to something.

  • 30. Christopher Parker  |  September 30, 2018 at 9:59 am

  • 31. Sandi  |  September 30, 2018 at 9:17 am

    Good for you!!! Talk to your plants also,honey…..They will love this!!!

  • 32. ritalee8383  |  September 30, 2018 at 8:35 am

    Beautiful LT.

  • 33. Maryellen  |  September 29, 2018 at 11:45 pm

    i love that you did that.working with soil is soothing to me also.and the thought of more butterfly’s is wonderful.
    i hope the bushes make it.
    on a different note…the kid is doing better in his new situation,,,
    it will take awhile to trust that its going to be permanent..
    we all keep trying..

  • 34. s00147954 (Simon)  |  September 29, 2018 at 10:22 pm

    That’s great! Planting plants can really encourage mindfulness and you can really lose yourself in the process.

  • 35. bikelaura  |  September 29, 2018 at 9:07 pm

    This is such a great idea! This time of year is also perfect for planting bulbs for flowers that pop up in the spring. So many great things they can learn from bulbs like patience and hidden beauty working underground and beauty in life and how short it is but important to appreciate! Maybe you could find some daffodil bulbs to plant between your schrubs? Love you!

  • 36. Foster Mom in Training  |  September 29, 2018 at 7:56 pm

    I love this idea! Planting calms me, too. Good luck with the shrubs.

  • 37. 1maniac1989  |  September 29, 2018 at 7:20 pm

    So beautiful. And such a great way to grow…wonderful advice for foster families. I agree, it is very grounding to work in the garden…or any little space of nature. I hope you keep planting🙂.

  • 38. Steph  |  September 29, 2018 at 7:13 pm

    I’ve heard there is something about digging in the ground and working with plants that people find relaxing. Great post!


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