planting has a purpose

September 29, 2018 at 7:07 pm 23 comments


i am so tired and depressed.  But i didnt lay around today… ok, well i did, but only after i planted some shrubs.  Have you ever done that?  i found it to be incredibly calming…


The front of the place I live looked like crap. So i went out and got these little shrubs and planted them.  i actually dug 4 holes and put the shrubs in.  For a moment when i was in the sun and had my hands covered in dirt and was talking to Tide about this (she was sitting on the porch), i felt less depressed and connected to the earth.  There was something about this process that was deeply impactful.

Plus, as you all know I am FASCINATbuttrfliesED with butterflies, when I was doing this, two butterflies were hovering around.

i just hope the shrubs don’t die… because i am not sure i did it 100% right.  If they don’t make it, i think i will get more depressed…


After experiencing this connection and process, i think all foster parents should do some planting with their foster children.  i know, some of you live in the city… well i do too.  Plant something in a pot.

It’s a cool way to reduce stress and of course that bonding thing you can get from this activity.  It seemed very connecting… Plus, it is something your foster kids can remember … and may even think about if they have to leave… That they left something that will keep a place in your space… and continue to grow  And that you can’t forget about them.  And if the kids stay with you for awhile, think about the growing cycle that you can all watch and experience together…

Connectedness… isn’t that something we all need?



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23 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Lynn/ Ethereal Highway  |  December 16, 2018 at 12:42 am

    Hi, LT. Nice to see you writing. I didn’t think I’d find anyone left from the old blogging days. I’ glad you’re finding pleasure in your gardening.

  • 2. Lynn/ Ethereal Highway  |  December 16, 2018 at 12:39 am

    LT!! It’s nice to know you’re back. I didn’t think I would find anyone left from the old blogging days. I’m glad for your joy in your yard. Sometimes being in touch with something can go a long way toward feeling a little better. Plus you have the accomplishment factor in making your home nice.


  • 3. ritalee8383  |  November 19, 2018 at 1:34 pm

    I’ve been thinking about you LT. Wishing you well.

  • 4. jamz9999  |  November 14, 2018 at 4:42 pm

    Hope you are doing okay. I check back regularly to see. Just letting you know that there are people out here that care about you.

  • 5. Ema  |  November 5, 2018 at 2:02 am

    This is not very well written.

  • 6. ritalee8383  |  October 26, 2018 at 11:32 pm

    Thing about you LT. I know you’re having a hard time right now. Just letting you know people care.

  • 7. dinah1007  |  October 24, 2018 at 1:15 pm

    That was me with the black thumb. Don’t know why it never puts my name in.

  • 8. Anonymous  |  October 23, 2018 at 2:13 pm

    I love to garden, have a black thumb though. Every year I try to grow watermelon. Haven’t got one yet. Planting and watching them grow is great, but I want to harvest something. Maybe next year! Never going to give up hope.

  • 9. Anonymous  |  October 9, 2018 at 12:58 am

    Love this and great advise! Thanks

  • 10. Elizabeth  |  October 4, 2018 at 8:35 am

    I completely agree with you about gardening. I stayed up most of the night reading your blog. I’m a mom and fostering has called to me for years. I donated a bunch of duffel bags and teddy bears to foster kids last year. I start my CASA training on Tuesday and will be assigned a case in November. I have two kids myself but I also want to foster after I do CASA. Your blog is helping me so much. I’m already a practitioner of peaceful parenting (no yelling, no spanking, use positive reinforcement, explain decisions) to my own children and I think peaceful parenting is the only way to parent a child. I want to bring that to foster kids’ lives. I am nervous but your blog is helping me.

  • 11. Jennifer Thut  |  October 1, 2018 at 10:24 am

    Great idea! I find gardening very relaxing too.

  • 12. Julia  |  October 1, 2018 at 9:33 am

    Love it! I’m a foster Mom and will start planting with the children, I’m sure it will also make them feel more at home like they are part of this new family!

    Thank You!

  • 13. Anonymous  |  September 30, 2018 at 10:11 am

    That is awesome! Thanks for this post We actually had bought some seeds and planting is on the schedule! Thank you I love your ideas and thoughts behind this as well! Also google: Plants that attract butterflies! And maybe plant one of those in your front area too!?? Have a great day LT!

  • 14. Brandy  |  September 30, 2018 at 10:10 am

    Great idea! I have tried to do vegetables with the kids, but never thought of planting something that would last long-term. I am glad you got a chance to feel connected to something.

  • 15. Christopher Parker  |  September 30, 2018 at 9:59 am

  • 16. Sandi  |  September 30, 2018 at 9:17 am

    Good for you!!! Talk to your plants also,honey…..They will love this!!!

  • 17. ritalee8383  |  September 30, 2018 at 8:35 am

    Beautiful LT.

  • 18. Maryellen  |  September 29, 2018 at 11:45 pm

    i love that you did that.working with soil is soothing to me also.and the thought of more butterfly’s is wonderful.
    i hope the bushes make it.
    on a different note…the kid is doing better in his new situation,,,
    it will take awhile to trust that its going to be permanent..
    we all keep trying..

  • 19. s00147954 (Simon)  |  September 29, 2018 at 10:22 pm

    That’s great! Planting plants can really encourage mindfulness and you can really lose yourself in the process.

  • 20. bikelaura  |  September 29, 2018 at 9:07 pm

    This is such a great idea! This time of year is also perfect for planting bulbs for flowers that pop up in the spring. So many great things they can learn from bulbs like patience and hidden beauty working underground and beauty in life and how short it is but important to appreciate! Maybe you could find some daffodil bulbs to plant between your schrubs? Love you!

  • 21. Foster Mom in Training  |  September 29, 2018 at 7:56 pm

    I love this idea! Planting calms me, too. Good luck with the shrubs.

  • 22. 1maniac1989  |  September 29, 2018 at 7:20 pm

    So beautiful. And such a great way to grow…wonderful advice for foster families. I agree, it is very grounding to work in the garden…or any little space of nature. I hope you keep planting🙂.

  • 23. Steph  |  September 29, 2018 at 7:13 pm

    I’ve heard there is something about digging in the ground and working with plants that people find relaxing. Great post!


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