LT’s Simple BLOG Etiquette

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If you don’t like what you are reading…DON’T read it.

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There are lots of other things to read in the world, find them.  Seriously…

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dalilama

66 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Aven  |  July 2, 2014 at 9:24 pm

    Hi! I have posted your Blog on my Facebook page. If this is a problem for you, please let me know and I will remove it. Rage on my FoSis…rage on!

    Reply
  • 2. hoperedeemedministries  |  July 25, 2014 at 11:27 pm

    Hi,

    I was just wondering if I could share your post about needing a mom on my blog.

    Reply
  • 3. Ashton  |  August 15, 2014 at 5:34 pm

    Can we please be friends?
    Ashton

    Reply
  • 4. Letty  |  September 9, 2014 at 3:20 pm

    Reading your words about all your hurts has left me raw. The things you have endured are unimaginable! My heart and prayers goes out to you and the victims of such horrendous crimes. As future foster parents your story and advice will echo in our minds. LT God will make you new. God will not allow an injustice go unpunished. He sees all and knows all.

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  • 5. Alicia Loupe  |  September 9, 2014 at 3:59 pm

    Your blog is amazing! You have a great talent to turn what was a hurtful dark past into something positive and informative. I am a new foster mom and my heart hurts for these children that are on the path that you have been on. The systems fails them completely, crappy case workers, hit or miss GAL, and shitty therapists. All I can do as an individual is to LOVE these kids, and make them part of my family! No one should have to grow up with out someone to call for advice!

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  • 6. Jenni McRae  |  September 16, 2014 at 8:30 am

    Hi – I noted your comments on copyright and was wondering if it would be okay to print some of your blog to encourage my foster carers and also those training to be foster carers to follow you. Thanks, Jenni

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    • 7. LooneyTunes  |  September 29, 2014 at 9:45 pm

      hi. print whatever to help foster carers. just credit the blog please. thanks, peace.

      Reply
  • 8. Linda Besner  |  September 22, 2014 at 4:31 pm

    Hi LT,

    I’m a journalist writing a brief story about the foster care system–would it be okay for me to include some of what you have to say here? Thanks so much for sharing your experiences.

    Cheers,
    Linda

    Reply
    • 9. LooneyTunes  |  September 29, 2014 at 9:41 pm

      Yup. just credit the blog. peace.

      Reply
      • 10. Linda Besner  |  May 3, 2016 at 3:40 pm

        Hi LT,

        Hmm, I’m not quite sure if you are still blogging in this space–I’m not seeing a lot of recent posts. I hope you’re well, whatever you’re doing! I wanted to ask you kind of a weird question: I’m a poet as well as a journalist, and I’m wondering if you would mind if I included a few lines from your copyright message in a poem of mine that will be published in my next book? The poem is about various forms of exploitation, and I found your copyright message very memorable. I was hoping to use the lines “This blog is copyrighted. That means you can’t take my writing without my permission. If you do, something can happen.” I would of course credit and provide a URL for the blog in the notes at the back of the book. Would this be okay with you? Probably not something you expected your words to appear in, I know!

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  • 11. Carol Pemberton  |  September 24, 2014 at 4:09 pm

    I somehow came upon your blog. I’m not sure what your name is. I wanted to let you know that I agree with everything you wrote about the foster care.system. I adopted my son from foster care. I have a bunch of questions for you regarding how I can help my son. Please email me. Thanks?

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    • 12. LooneyTunes  |  September 29, 2014 at 9:38 pm

      im sorry, but i generally do not respond to people via email.
      i have been screwed big time over the years, so i stopped doing that.
      if you want to post your questions here, i would be happy to try and answer them. peace.

      Reply
  • 13. manyofus1980  |  October 20, 2014 at 2:23 pm

    Can I be a guest poster on your blog, LT? I’d really like to write on something on here. I think your blog is amazing. If you want to allow me to write something on abuse, ritual abuse, child abuse, did, healing, anything…let me know? My blog is here
    http://multime1980.wordpress.com/

    xx ❤ love to you my friend and fellow survivor!

    carol anne

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  • 14. Tammy green  |  October 25, 2014 at 6:26 pm

    God bless you
    Know I am always praying
    Grandma Tammy

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  • 15. Ally Street  |  October 29, 2014 at 1:10 pm

    Good afternoon,
    I really have enjoyed reading your blog and thank you for your perspectives. I work with a foster care agency and maintain our website. I would like to use your post about Thanksgiving as a featured article for our November update. If you agree, please let me know how you want to be cited. Thanks again for what you do and for your consideration.
    Ally

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    • 16. LooneyTunes  |  October 29, 2014 at 2:30 pm

      Hi. please just cite my blog address and that’s it. hope it helps.
      peace

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      • 17. Ally Street  |  October 31, 2014 at 12:23 pm

        Thank you so very much!!!

        Reply
  • 18. Jennifer  |  November 11, 2014 at 12:32 pm

    What great information and from a personal perspective-it is so valuable. I would like to use some of your material for training for current foster parents. Would this be okay? I will be sure to credit your blog.
    Jennifer

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    • 19. LooneyTunes  |  November 11, 2014 at 5:57 pm

      yup, use whatever. just cite the blog.
      peace.

      Reply
  • 20. Dana  |  November 12, 2014 at 4:51 pm

    Hi, Sorry LT, I posted one of your articles in full to “Researching Reform” http://researchingreform.net/2014/11/10/the-buzz-37/#comment-25250
    before I saw your copyright clause. I hope you don’t mind.

    “The voice of the child! Kids in foster care don’t realise that some families want them and want to have contact with them but are prevented by social workers!”

    I would like to use more in future too.

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    • 21. LooneyTunes  |  November 12, 2014 at 9:01 pm

      no problem. just cite the blog in the future.
      peace.

      Reply
  • 22. Tina Green  |  November 13, 2014 at 1:53 pm

    Hello, I am a social worker who likes to keep our foster parents abreast of issues related to the children they are working with. I came across your blog through another newsletter I subscribe to and would like to share the information about Thanksgiving preparedness. Of course, I will give you full credit and cite your blog. Please let me know if this will be a problem and I will not pass out the informaiton.
    Thanks so much for your insight.

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    • 23. LooneyTunes  |  November 13, 2014 at 7:31 pm

      its ok. use anything you want. just cite the blog.
      peace.

      Reply
  • 24. Traci Wilson  |  November 13, 2014 at 6:06 pm

    I am a CPS caseworker and I would very much like to share your blog on my facebook page. Would that be okay? I admire you for speaking so honestly about your experiences. Thank you for being brave!

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    • 25. LooneyTunes  |  November 13, 2014 at 7:32 pm

      sure. its ok.
      peace.

      Reply
      • 26. Traci Wilson  |  November 13, 2014 at 11:15 pm

        Thank you!

        Reply
  • 27. daughteroftheking73  |  November 17, 2014 at 12:38 pm

    Hi,
    I am writing a blog post to raise awareness about foster care and all the issues foster children face, how to become aware and how to genuinely help and I just wanted to insert a link of your blog post https://looneytunes09.wordpress.com/2014/09/02/reform-the-foster-care-system/
    just wondering if that’s okay. I would post it exactly like that and direct everyone to this blog which I think is amazing and has a lot of valuable information. Just let me know.Thanks!

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    • 28. LooneyTunes  |  November 17, 2014 at 12:42 pm

      yup, its ok.
      peace.

      Reply
  • 30. Amy Hanson  |  November 20, 2014 at 7:48 pm

    Hi LT I Really Enjoy Your Blog, I Too Was In Foster Care From 7 To 18 Here In California, went through a lot of foster homes, group homes and schools, it sucked. Now days I just do my best to survive although I still find myself moving around from place to place and having a hard time finding where I really belong, I just take it one day at a time , Amy

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    • 31. LooneyTunes  |  November 21, 2014 at 12:51 pm

      you sound like me. i used to move around all the time. this is the longest i have stayed anywhere!
      i never feel like i belong either. its like looking out a window and watching everything, but being trapped inside.
      do you goto therapy? its supposed to help, but it doesnt seem to help me much. i dunno.
      peace.

      Reply
  • 32. Kimberly Biss  |  November 21, 2014 at 10:49 am

    Hi,
    We work with Foster/Adoptive parents and would like to include a link to your blog post and include some of your information about Thanksgiving preparedness in our newsletter to our Foster/Adoptive Parents. Do we have your permission to do that?

    Reply
    • 33. LooneyTunes  |  November 21, 2014 at 12:49 pm

      sure. just cite or link the blog.
      peace.

      Reply
      • 34. Kimberly Giss  |  November 25, 2014 at 10:21 am

        Thanks!

        Reply
  • 35. kelsey  |  December 6, 2014 at 3:45 am

    Hi LT I just came across your blog and was wondering if you could give me some advice (Long) I’ve been reading post after post, why?, because you remind me a lot of my friend, not that you sound much like her but you’re circumstances are similar. (A bit of back round info.) My best friend entered foster care at the age of 10 and has been in this group home ever since well she has probably had other homes but I know she has been here for years and from what she told me about her abuse sounds a lot like what you describe only worse but for a shorter period of time, her parents weren’t actually the ones who abused her they just didn’t protect her and let someone else abuse her, we’re both 17 and she’s about to turn 18 she’s moving out of her group home in four months, I don’t know if they kick kids out when they turn 18 or not but I don’t think that would happen to her because she has a really good relationship with every one there she doesn’t really half to follow the rules and she has a lot of freedom plus she always said she knows what she’s going to do when she turns 18 so I don’t think that’s what’s bothering her but something is. She’s never really let her past bother her she could always talk to me about it like it was no big deal she didn’t get emotional or anything she was just always like “It happened, I don’t care, I don’t let it bother me” so I don’t know if it’s her past coming back to haunt her or if it’s because she’s moving out or if it’s something else, but she is turning into a completely different person! She used to be this annoyingly happy person, but now she has these mood swings, she’s normal one minute, depressed and looks like she wants to cry the next, my mom asked her if she was planning on going to college and she just got so defensive out of nowhere! she does that a lot now. Plus lately she’s been talking about going to visit her parents they’re not in jail or anything and they live about two towns away but if you knew what I knew you’d agree that that’s not a good idea at all, but she keeps talking about it. I know you don’t know her so you don’t know what’s wrong with her but I just thought since you two have the worst things in common maybe you’d have an idea, I don’t know why she’s acting so crazy but I don’t like it, and I’ve been trying to distance my self from her but she always calling to hangout when ever she’s free but she never actually wants to do anything anymore, but then when we do go somewhere all she’s interested in are the guys but before she literally never talked about boys and me neither, but now she’s a huge flirt, and she lets guys get extra friendly to the point where it’s embarrassing! I don’t know if you have any advice, I don’t know if this is some phase and I don’t know how to bring her out of her funk, and also I don’t know how to talk her out of trying to go see her parents, I don’t know if that’s normal, I mean did you ever want to go find your parents when you got older whether in jail or at there house, that doesn’t seem normal but then again I don’t know. Welp thanks in advance 🙂 Sorry this is so long, she’s been my best friend for the last two years I just want to help her with her problems but I’m not good with stuff like that in general, so I’m just stuck 😦

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  • 36. Jon Kaneko-James  |  December 15, 2014 at 5:42 pm

    Hi there,

    I hope you don’t mind my asking this: I’m researching for a book where I’d like to characterise the main character as having grown up in care, and I’d like to use this blog as one of my resources. The way I intend to write the character would be different in some ways to your particular experience, and although every child in care is very different, your writing gives me a degree of insight more than I had before.

    The book isn’t specifically about the character’s experiences in the foster care system, but I feel it’s important that if I write a character with that background, it has to be correct, or at least not so incorrect that it’s offensive to anyone who knows the experience in reality.

    The whole project is just a glimmer in my eye at the moment. I can’t be sure that I’ll do anything more than spend eighteen months on writing and research to find out that either it’s terrible, or that literary agents use it as toilet paper, but if anyone does read/publish it I’ll make sure your blog gets a mention in the acknowledgements.

    I hope that’s alright.

    Apologies

    Jon

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  • 37. jon  |  January 20, 2015 at 8:21 pm

    Thank you for writing this blog. At one point i read it from the start to finish but I haven’t kept up for a while, I hope Moonlight is OK, it is the tragedy if pets that we usually outlive them. I had a dog named Baby, she died due to complications during pregnancy, I was 9 at the time, I still have pets now but I have an impossible time dealing with the mortality of them. Know you have support, here and elsewhere that can help if you need it.

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    • 38. LooneyTunes  |  January 21, 2015 at 2:47 pm

      thanks for your comment. im sorry you lost your dog when you were so young.
      they should outlive us because they are so amazing.
      😦

      Reply
  • 39. Dawn J. Post  |  February 10, 2015 at 12:43 pm

    LT, first let me express my condolences about your loss. Moonlight sounds like your best friend and my impression was that you gave her what you never received – unconditional commitment.

    Second, I am writing you because your blog about foster care records inspired me to write an article about the issue and I would like to cite to your blog. I am attorney for children in NYC and regularly write about the issues that children face in foster care. If you would like to review the piece in advance I can send it to you. I can be reached through the information provided.

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  • 40. B  |  April 6, 2015 at 12:38 pm

    Hello I am currently starting at project that donates new or slightly used luggage or duffle bags to local Philadelphia foster kids…. I came across your post and thought it was perfect and very straight from the heart… Thx u.. My question is the image u have on this page with the young man pulling a trash bag would be perfect for my flyer.. How do I go about using this pic from your page thx u soooooo much

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  • 41. Lisa  |  May 14, 2015 at 5:05 pm

    Hi, I’m a foster carer from England would it be ok to share your blogs with other carers. I really like the one about Christmas and think it would be a great teaching aid for all foster carers. Wishing you all the best and keep up the good work you do to help others xx

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  • 42. Ruth  |  May 28, 2015 at 8:53 am

    Thanks for your first day “tips”! I a social worker who helps get new folk involved in fostering and I would love to share this with them?

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  • 43. Meagan  |  May 28, 2015 at 5:15 pm

    Hi there. Thank you so much for this blog. I grew up in foster care and am still experiencing the effects of that on my life. For the longest time I wandered from place to place to place. I have lived where I am now for the longest of anywhere I’ve lived before. It’s good to know there are others out there.

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    • 44. LooneyTunes  |  May 28, 2015 at 9:13 pm

      hey. welcome to the blog. i know the feelings of wandering. i still dont feel settled.
      i used to write alot more, everyday a couple years ago… now, … things have been complicated.
      hang in there,
      peace

      Reply
  • 45. Anjuli  |  June 17, 2015 at 3:30 pm

    Hi LT – We’re setting up the Foster Care system in Trinidad, and I really think some of your posts can be helpful in our upcoming training session for parents…would it be possible to reproduce some of the content? We would of course always credit it accordingly – Please advise. Thanks!

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    • 46. LooneyTunes  |  June 17, 2015 at 10:49 pm

      sure, go ahead. just cite the blog please.
      good luck setting up the foster care system. i hope it is better than the US.
      peace.

      Reply
    • 47. LooneyTunes  |  June 21, 2015 at 10:16 am

      hi. absolutely. hope it helps some people.
      peace.

      Reply
      • 48. Rita  |  October 21, 2015 at 1:36 pm

        You are very missed. Are you safe?

        Reply
  • 49. Angela  |  September 16, 2015 at 2:37 pm

    Hello, I was wondering if you would be willing to speak with me about a few things regarding a foster child i’m trying to adopt. It seems as though the state is trying to convince me that he’s too problematic. I’m literally having to fight for him and I haven’t even had a chance to meet him. He has been labeled many things and hasn’t stayed in a home longer than 5 months. If I privately shared some of his labels and their reasonings…would you be willing to tell me if you had similar behaviors? It won’t change my mind, I’ll still fight for him, but it’ll help me go to bat against at least some of the labels.

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  • 50. raychrisdejazzd  |  October 1, 2015 at 8:10 pm

    After reading your replies to other requests, I think I have your permission, but just thought I’d ask. I have a newsletter (printed on paper) for families who foster and adopt, but do not have the internet. I would like to reprint your article on how to treat a foster kid the first day they come. I will reference your blog address so they can find more of your writing if they get the chance. If you don’t want me to use it, you can e-mail me at raychris@dejazzd.com

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  • 51. MMM  |  October 10, 2015 at 1:56 am

    Hey LT, I just want to let you know that I’ve really appreciated what you wrote. I found your blog last night and have since read all the posts that are public. I’m still a teenager, a senior in High School, but I plan on working with kids and teenagers in the foster care system, who have been abused, or who have aged out, using animal-based therapy, when I am old enough. Your blog has been incredibly insightful and has taught me a lot. If you have any other tips, I’d greatly appreciate it. Thanks so much!

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  • 52. Ruby doggy is my friend  |  October 10, 2015 at 4:54 pm

    Hi LT, thank you for taking the time to provide a foster child’s point of view. The first thing I did when we started to look into fostering was to look for such articles, these are few and far between but by far the most informative. Your blog is now book marked and I know as we move forward to foster I will be revisiting over and over.

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  • 53. Rhonda M  |  October 20, 2015 at 4:21 pm

    I love your blog! I applaud your honesty and the courage it takes to talk about things that were (are) so painful in an effort to help others. I would like to use some of your tips in our foster parent training. It’s really powerful stuff! I will give you full credit. Thanks so much!

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  • 54. Sarah Kathleen  |  November 23, 2015 at 11:38 am

    Hi, LT!

    I’m a CASA supervisor in Wichita, KS, and I feel like a lot of what you have to say would be really helpful for them. Would you mind if I shared your blog and advice with my advocates?

    Thanks!
    – S

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  • 55. Caroline H  |  January 16, 2016 at 10:58 am

    Hi LT, I’m a kinda new foster carer in UK, I’ve been reading your blog since 2014 I’m worried about you, not heard anything since June 2014, are you well/safe? Please just let us know youre ok x

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  • 56. Caroline H  |  January 16, 2016 at 10:59 am

    Sorry meant since 2015, just a quick note to let all your readers know your safe x

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  • 57. Celine  |  January 20, 2016 at 2:16 am

    Hi Looney Tunes (I love the Looney Tunes),

    Great blog and a rare find. I hope you are okay and will like to urge you to keep writing. Not just as a source of outlet for you (which I’m sure this has been), but it provides a wealth of information to us all and helping us understand things from the perspective of a foster child (or ex foster child). We do not pretend to understand the trauma foster children have been through – the isolation, the hurt, the feeling of no one cares. We have not walked in your footsteps. We have not seen what you have seen, or heard what you have heard or felt what you have felt. But the more we can get glimpses of your world, the better we can prepare to help people be better foster parents, the more people know, the better equipped they can prepare themselves – physically, mentally, emotionally. From the comments I have read, case worker after case workers, supervisors, foster parents, future foster parents are all benefiting from this. Thank you for the bottom of all our hearts.

    I hope you write me back. You should be able to see my email.
    A big wave from across the world and signing off now….from Asia.

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  • 58. Magi  |  January 22, 2016 at 11:37 am

    How could I contact you directly, do you have email I could use to message you?

    Reply
  • 59. B  |  February 2, 2016 at 4:48 am

    Hi LT, I hope you are doing well. I work with a non-government organisation trying to start a foster care system in India. Your tips for foster parents would be very useful for us to share with our new and inexperienced foster carers. May we please use some of your writing in our trainings? Thank you.

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  • 60. anthonyguerra80  |  March 21, 2016 at 3:53 pm

    Hello, I will be using your posts for our CASA Facebookpage. Feel free to visit the page or our website: http://www.casatulareco.org. Thank you for your insights!

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  • 61. Elizabeth Bauer  |  March 24, 2016 at 3:09 pm

    Hi- Love this site. Love it. Are you still blogging? You should- such an important voice that needs to be heard. I agree with the other bloggers, it would be nice if we knew you were OK…

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  • 62. jade chadwick  |  April 22, 2016 at 10:28 am

    Hi, i’m doing a piece about foster families for my final year journalism project at university. Just wondering if you’re still active and if it’s possible to email over a couple questions for you to answer?

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  • 63. Kaylee  |  August 12, 2016 at 6:00 pm

    Hi LT. I caught your blog when I was in University in 2010/2011 when you were still actively writing it. I’ve never commented, only read with pleasure. I’m in law school now, to become a juvenile advocate for foster youth and foster kid adoptions. I still use your blog as a touchstone all the time. I have never actively quoted you in any of my works over the years, but have always cited your blog as recommended reading. I just wanted to let you know that I’m quoting a few lines from your tips on how to be a good foster mom in a research paper for my alternative dispute resolution Master’s (ADR) for things like child protection mediation or family group conferencing.

    I do hope you’ll post again soon. As a fellow dog lover, I would love to know any new additions to the family ❤

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  • 64. Sue  |  December 6, 2016 at 12:52 pm

    I work in a foster care agency and would love to include some of your information, especially your Handy Tips, in the training we do for people looking to be foster parents. I will definitely include your blog info with anything I share, is that OK?

    And it would be great to include your blog as a link in our monthly newsletter that’s sent to all of our foster parents and on our FB page. Please let me know if you are OK with this. I have read a lot of what you have said and feel it needs to be heard …so insightful and from a perspective that is so often missed.

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  • 65. Sherrie VanSickle  |  January 6, 2017 at 12:11 am

    Call ” lt “, 5159747242. dont let your family down. If you are real, shit you have to be the years and time frame hit it….you can do a new blog for. World press found my family I see what went wrong, a joke lol…. I need to free my mind B R Fisher, is good and free my mind of wondering about you can rest.

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  • 66. Linda Besner  |  January 20, 2017 at 1:37 pm

    Hi LT,

    Hmm, I’m not quite sure if you are still blogging in this space–I’m not seeing a lot of recent posts. I hope you’re well, whatever you’re doing! I wanted to ask you kind of a weird question: I’m wondering if you would mind if I included a few lines from your copyright message in a poem of mine that will be published in my next book? The poem is about various forms of exploitation, and I found your copyright message very memorable. I was hoping to use the lines “This blog is copyrighted. That means you can’t take my writing without my permission. If you do, something can happen.” I would of course credit and provide a URL for the blog in the notes at the back of the book. Would this be okay with you? Probably not something you expected your words to appear in, I know!

    Cheers,
    Linda Besner

    Reply

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