Ah, I don’t always bash on you.


Those that feel that this blog constantly foster parents, I wish I had many of the other 200+ posts up that I have written over the years……because yes, there is bashing but there is also posts of the greatness of foster parents.  (For example, for those that have read this blog since early on, remember the Hippie Foster Parents post where I talked about what they taught me: like love and survival skills, and dancing, etc…. probably one of the best blogs of all time.)

I have been writing for years… most of the posts are archived or in my trash can behind the blog scene, but those that have read for awhile can tell you… it’s not always bashing….

But, for the newbies, please see this one:


and this one……Read #5 at the bottom —   https://looneytunes09.wordpress.com/2010/06/13/top-myths-about-foster-kids-stop-thinking-them-and-learn-the-truth/#more-699

But I do bash you…. so you see things from a foster kid’s perspective… because many times you get so caught up in “system crap”  and our “bad” behaviors that you can’t see things from our hearts and heads…Just like I CAN’T SEE from a foster parent’s perspective….

…….AND trust me, I have bashed tons on the system and workers…..



See the one on the system at the end — https://looneytunes09.wordpress.com/2011/03/14/things-that-suck-about-being-a-foster-kid/

You all get to hear stuff from foster parents that you talk with, groups that you join, blogs that you read, and workers, etc… but rarely do you get to hear it from an ex-foster kid who is grown up now and can look back on system things that NEED to be fixed.

Healthline+Foster+Care+Blog+of+yearDo you know how many foster parent blogs and forums there are?  …that talk about the behaviors and problems of the kid and all that there is about fostering and adoption.  Tons..

You just need a different perspective in your time on the web….



September 20, 2018 at 10:50 am 11 comments

I challenge you to trashbags


The other night I was watching the TV news and there was a story on about foster kids. It was a news story about an organization that provides back-trash kidpacks for the kids, so they don’t carry their stuff in trash bags.  The reporter started the story off with a classic picture of a kid carrying a trash bag, and ended the story with a map of all the states that this organization has sent back-packs to… almost every state in the US..

How is this still possible?  How has this not changed?  How can foster parents not think about this at all?  For the life of me, I don’t understand this. This hasn’t changed since the time I was in care and before me!  What a fucking easy thing to change.


I may be stupid, but I know trash bags are for trash— stuff you usually don’t want.  You think it doesn’t bother us that we carry trash bags or beat up old boxes.  Is that what we are?  Is that what our stuff is?

Yeah, someone is going to tell me that when they moved and packed up their stuff, they put their stuff in trash bags.  Don’t you see how that is different?  That is your choice.  A foster kid has no choice because we are not getting a choice between a back-pack/suitcase Ugly_3aaa81_633357or a trash bag.  Foster parents and workers just use them without thinking.

Don’t you think we already feel like trash?  We live in a world of chaos and in many cases  in a world where people don’t want us, or choose other things instead of choosing us. We realize this. To this day, I feel like a piece of thrown out trash.

You know, I have written about this before, but what the hell?  This is such a simple thing to change, why does there have to be organizations that take up this cause… why aren’t foster parents aware enough to get this? …. and social workers too!

Sometimes little things mean a hell of a lot to kids in chaos.

Maybe foster parents and workers should put there stuff in a trash bag (purses, wallets) and carry it around for awhile.  See what you feel like?  Visit other homes with your trash bag.  Walk down the street with your trash bag. Probably just the thought of replacing your purse with a trash bag is something you can’t ever consider.

Geez, how much does a back-pack or suitcase cost? $15 at Walmart….some even cheaper

If you can’t afford one, maybe you shouldn’t be caring for foster kids.




September 9, 2018 at 1:38 pm 16 comments

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